its not u maja its me honest lol

katy you are right, there has to be even a little bit of sexual attraction to make it work, a big part of relationships is sexual anyway, the other half is support emotional and etc.

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thanks and ur right looks play a part in our decision on alot of thing clothes shoes food ate why not men and women

right i mean just because someone is good looking does not mean you are going to be attracted to them, some people just mix others do not. I have never found anyone i mix completely with but maybe one day i will and everyone else here who is looking

amen to that sister

"How many kids you have, how nice your house, car is how many times u have been married do you have a nice job please tell me im wrong someone."
I'm afraid you're REALLY wrong. If you have kids and have been married several times, you already KNOW how to get women.

"Want a man to BE A MAN. Not cowtow to every thing I say or want. course spoiling me doesn't hurt either .."
So you want a living contradiction? I'm sorry, but you can't have someone who spoils you who DOESN'T cowtow to everything you say or want. It's like wanting to be a hippie while still voting republican.

"CONFIDENCE. This is ultimately the one and only thing you should have to draw women to you."
Got it. It's not working.

"SOCIAL STATUS. A man with a high status is extremely important to women because women want to belong to the society that surrounds them. ...There will be a different definition for each woman"
That doesn't help anyone. If the idea of high status is really that open to interpretation, then what is there to shoot for?

"WARMTH AND HONESTY. It would be a good thing to ask, "How real are you?". What are your intentions? Women will see through you so you better straighten this out from the beginning if you want her to see you again.""
I'm as real as they get. It's not making me anymore sexually appealing.

it is a good thing confidence but one thing a woman hates more than anything in a man is conceded GOD you just want to slap them haha if a man is that way he doesn't need the love of a woman just the love of himself

i was heard theres a fine line between the 2 and its better to just to walk the line

but i been know to be wrong sometimes even though im perfect in my own little world its just to hard to get people to join my world...lol

no one wants a conceited man confident is completely different confidence is attractive conceited is pathetic

I love nice guys but very hard to trust them, in my honest opinion i think us women go for bad boys because when they lie and cheat it doesn't hurt as much because we saw it coming. I could be wrong but that is my reason for doing it. The nice guys i have dated broke my heart the worse and to be safe and protect my heart i just avoid the "nice" guys all together. That might not make sense to men and maybe some women but we are different and we all deal with certain things in ways that will be easiest.

probably the best answer why women stray away from the nice guys

i agree tongue we don't take the bad boys as serious, we expect it even though we may be unaware on some level deep in our minds, we expect them to do something. A nice guy you want to trust so bad because you know he is genuine. But when they do something, we break down and can't believe it, it hurts us a lot more. I think most women feel safer with the bad boy because she doesn't want to tie herself into something that will hurt her so much

alot of good info there for the nice guys.. that there chance with alot of womens are like a snowballs chances in hell.. lol

This is going to sound really cynical but...

My opinion on 'nice' guys: they have to be, and try to be, overly nice for a reason... and that reason isn't usually a good one.

It goes along the same lines (but no where near as extreme) as an abusive person: if they didn't have a good/sincere side to draw a partner in close to them - none of them would stay after being abused. Most abusers have to be just as nice as they are violent.

I'm not saying ALL nice guys are bad or if someone treats you well that you need to question their motives constantly... but people that act too good to be true? Look for that other side to them as well.

Looks are important yes and someone who makes me laugh is a huge turn on. In some cases there are guys I have friendships with who make me laugh that I have no attraction to. But to not date him means that I know things won't work out because I won't be sexually inclined. Anyway romance is good, affection and good with his hands...all women are turned on by touch and if you don't know to touch a woman it don't matter how you look. Some women have very good reasons for not dating a certain type of man and if her experience is bad she has no choice but to try something new. So not that nice guys aren't good enough, just the pain they can cause is not worth it.

Confidence is a major part in it. I look for a man that can be independant and take care of himself but still needs me around because we connect. I want to be his best friend. Someone I can trust in and communicate with. Makes me feel safe. And yes can make me laugh. But there has to more than just the humor. You have to be attracted to them, feel comforatble. Dont be afraid to show your feelings. We like attention. We need to know that we are special to you. Show it by your actions and not by gifts. Honesty. Not to many people are honest anymore. I would rather be hurt by you telling me the truth than to find out about something and it be kept secret.

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