Give me your spin on it.
Is it more than physical?

Yes

Yes!!!
IMHO...physical cheating doesnt hurt as much or leave the scars emotional cheating does.

Is it still cheating if you no longer love eachother? No sex, more like friends.

The emotional cheating does leave the most scars.
But the physical cheating can lead to STDs which can be the gift that keeps on giving.
Not to mention the whole question of if one is not good enough than why not cut that one loose and go for what you want.

So how do you feel with Social media being so accessible now? Do you consider phonecalls and messaging to random opposite sex people cheating? I do.

If you are in a relationship....yes.
Get out before you invest in another relationship.

I am not sure if this falls under random or not... if so then I am guilty. I have chatted with many opposite sex ppl that I consider friends and Pancho know about it. Would I cross lines NO...
WILL I continue these friendships absolutely...

He also has female friends...

Cheating involves deception. If it needs to be a secret, then it's cheating. I don't include talking to friends of the opposite sex as wrong. I have many guy friends that I would continue to talk to but not in an inappropriate way.

Absolutely.
Having total trust in a relationship
Is golden.

has to do with intent


for instance

I have a few male friends on social media sites

that are married

their wives are aware that we are friends

we talk about politics, religion, stuff in the news

we joke about kids and grandkids

If I wish them a happy birthday or Merry Christmas

I include their wives in it also

What is cheating? HELLO! Lack of integrity

When a woman lies about her age & her weight...AND the no. of guys she's been with

Why you plan on cheating on someone?

No. He cheated by sending romantic poetry to a woman. He admits he was sleazing now. Sad. But whatever.

physical intimacy (from kissing on) with another person, for me, is cheating

I don't hold people hostage to emotion, which is harder to control than actions,,,,

Cheating is whatever the other person says it is.

If you are with someone who has unreasonable limits on what they allow you to do in your life, it is CHEATING to go past those limits. Don't bother to get a consensus from others about what THEY think cheating is, because that doesn't matter. Just get out of that relationship.

Whatever both people in the relationship understand it to be, even if not consciously aware of it.

Violations usually communicated through speech and behavior meant to hide or distract from discovery.

People generally know when they "cheat" even if they consciously don't think of it as cheating.
But almost universally they will do, or have done, something to keep the other person from finding out. Premeditated planning, lies and obfuscations, avoidance, small confessions to hide large problems.
Little different than children that wet the bed and hide the sheets in hopes mom doesn't find out, or confess to eating 1 cookie when they really ate 4 and have half the bag hidden in their room.

Self interest rationalized as altruism to differentiate between "I didn't tell you about the surprise party because it would have ruined it for you, I was trying to protect you," and, "I didn't tell you I banged my secretary and lied that one time because I knew it would hurt you, I was trying to protect you."


It can be anything.
IMO the most important aspect is the subsequent ongoing manipulation of perceptions. Lying or manipulating behavior to change the other persons view of reality, or even self delusion/deception leading to manipulation of another persons view of reality.

someone said that it's only cheating if there is lying, omission of guilt, subterfuge going on

so if you are with someone who gives you all his passwords

lets you read all texts and messages on his phone, computer

is completely open and honest with you

about all communications with women


is he cheating?