i'm not hangout a lot, basically not talking much, so by the time i want get to know a man, i just don't know what to do.

People are more interested in talking about themselves than others.

This is good because you can use this to start a conversation and get to know them more before you tell them anything much about yourself.

Telling others too much about yourself at the start leaves you vulnerable to having them trying to be who you want rather than who they are.

Every one to some degree has the same problem as you talking to others. Its a bit like dancing, practice makes for improvement so practice talking to others where it doesn't matter like at the check out at the supermarket.

Hi I like your brasses, are you afraid your pants will fall down

I think if i said that to a guy that i just met, they probably will think that i'm crazy or just run awaya. lol.
the problem is that, other than i have problem to start conversation, i have low esteem as well. since i am boyish girl as appearance, i always think that guys just like feminim and pretty girl. so that what's make me never approach a guy in the first place

A woman who doesn't talk much?

Use your chemistry, start , just by saying hi, be you and be safe.

Make a comment about his shoe size. That usually gets things rolling

a kick in the b usually gets attention... that got my attention to tell him to leave me alone

Hello mamorukum,

Welcome to mingle

I really like simplycomplicated's answer


The supermarket sounds like a super place to sharpen your social skills.



I also like Cheeriosoo's answer

Basically just be yourself, people will either like you or not, but its not the end of the world, and there are plenty more fishes in the sea.


You also added...


Try not to sink yourself before you get started, think POSITIVE, not negative, guys around the world like all kinds of women, slim ones, curvy ones, fuller figured one's, all kinds, different one's...

So you state in your profile that you have a few extra pounds, don't a lot of women have a few extra pounds?

Your'e fine, do what you like to do and one day you will meet your match,

Most times, life is kinda like when you want/seek something its difficult to find...

And then BANG on some days you meet people who you click with and they rock your world....


If I go on a blind-date/first-date, I try to find out what make's the person laugh, what they despise or hate or dislike.

I try to find out what they like to do in their free time, to see whether they like similar activities/hobbies/interests to myself.

And I like to find out what a person's taste in music too, after all music is an international language :)

Well Good luck in finding what you seek.

:)

Yeah, sounds like a scammer.

Well first off you might want to work on your communication skills...
At least when it comes to the written word.. then you might try reading a newspaper catch up on current events..
Read a book on jokes memorize a few of them... are you might try learning magic ... everybody likes a good magic trick

For example (((abracadabra )).look !!
I just pulled a rabbit out of my!!..
Ohh.. nevermind!!@. I forgot you can't see..
Lol

Well mamorukun I am afraid you are wrong!
You are a handsome attractive feminine looking woman.

Let me ask you a question. If a guy doesnt like how you look would you want him as a boyfriend?
I hope you have enough self esteem to say no.
If not you need to work on your self esteem. Remember you are the creator of your self esteem. Don't give that power to others.

It may surprise you to know that a lot of males find overly feminine, pretty girls to be intimidating and unattractive.

I'm still wondering why you wear braces and I still think they look cool on you.