I know all the sayings ... don't fish off the company pier, don't $*#@ where you eat....

I know it's most likely a bad idea, tho - many still seem to do it - since there are several married couples where I work....


Just curious to hear some opinions on this topic.

Don't do it.

1. If the relationship don't work out, you're stuck working together.

2. If the company goes belly-up, you'll both be out of work.

This ^^^^^

3- Everyone including couples, need space & privacy

Yeah.... It is mighty tempting when I have so few options, but I know you are right.

There are several couples who met here and seem to do fine.....

Normally I would agree with the sentiments expressed by motowndowntown and sassy because their concerns are valid. But I met my ex husband in the work place and we were together for 10 years. I have no regrets about it at all.

If the company at which you work is wired in a way that you don't have to collaborate on projects together or be in each other's working space all the time, then the potential for disaster is minimised considerably I think, and it's not such a bad idea. But women's instincts are often right. If your gut is telling you no, you might want to go with that.

Ask yourself, " Can I take all that, day in & day out stuff "
I could not.
When my ex was working and gone 10-14 hrs.. or away for 2 weeks at the time... I was overjoyed to see him...... " Honey can I kiss your feet ? "

Peggy,

Very well said! I work for a large company, and we might pass in the hallway, but I wouldn't have to interact with him much - if I didn't want to.

I guess I can just play it by ear, and see if anything comes of it. He hasn't asked me out, and as tempting as it might be - I don't think I will "make a move"

So, I may have nothing to worry about. Just because I find him attractive doesn't mean it's mutual. We've talked off and on over several years, and I even asked him if he was single - so chances are he's not interested.





Blondey, great answer! You made me chuckle.

Yes, two valid points I have thought about.

People will not follow these rules once they are attracted just as people who are married fool around. Mother nature gets the first word and its usually yes I will.

As long as you are aware of potential issues (such as has been brought up in this thread already) and are willing to deal with them down the road. Then date away. You can always find a new job just like you can find a new partner...

I am totally against it.
When it works fine and dandy.
When there is strife everyone in the work area has to deal with it.

I am thankful that in the last 15 year both companies I have worked with,have had clauses that forbid it and if you do then both can be terminated.


Oh I believe if and it is huge that IF it doesn't come in to the work place fine and dandy. I do know of one couple that this worked for. Worked with the male everyday. I mean everyday never knew til the shared secretary gave notice to get married that they were a couple.

IF ALL office romances could be conducted that way I would be all for it.

SitkaRains,

I can't argue with you on that one. I have never really thought it was a good idea. Fortunately, we work in different departments, and it's not what you might consider an office romance. Still - there is always potential for issues.



2email4m, I've been with my company for 20 years, and I have no desire to quit my job. I think it's easier to find a mate than a job at this point.




sybariticguy, Yeah - that's usually the way of it ... at least it would have been 20 years ago - but I've actually learned from a few of my mistakes, so I am not as impetuous as I used to be.

I seriously doubt it will amount to anything - but it was nice to hear other's opinions.

Thank you

Well, this how 90 percent of people meet and get married. I'd only say, once married its a good idea that one of the two looks for work elsewere. You need seperation. Or you will get tired of each other.