Hello
As we all desperate males using this and all other dating apps to get to know girls around the country so my question is how to break the ice while in conversation with totally random person. Mostly girls think they men are creep or stalker while they keep looking into their profiles and messaging them. To answer that, girls either block that account or report it which in case it's really hard to get to know someone. Do you have any ideas or past experiences or any suggestions, feel free to write it so it can help others to motivate themselves to the next step
Thanks

Welcome to Mingle.

I found it was always better to be myself,
Rather than a wannabe or pretender,
And it's best to tell the truth,
As small lies need bigger lies to cover them,
And big lies need humongous lies to cover them.
Honesty is the best policy.

Good luck.

Desperation is not attractive to anyone.
Not all men are desperate.
The ones that are...maybe they shouldn't be trying to date until they can learn to be less desperate.
Desperation tends to lead to bad decisions.


Don't look at it as breaking the ice.
The only thing ice covers is frigid waters.

Better to treat that initial dip like tropical waters, you're on vacation, and wear something other than a speedo.

IOW don't feel desperate that you have to do something to get somewhere, see it as something you want to do, have something you want to talk about because it makes you happy, and be mindful of the comfort and interests of other people (namely the person you are talking to).


There you go then, just don't act like a creep or potential stalker.


That reads like a potential creep or stalker.
Hard to get to know someone after they block or report you?
That means you aren't taking the hint and keep on trying until you get to know them.
The hint isn't all that subtle.

I am not desperate.

I find it easy to break the ice block with a hammer and chisel.

As for online. If I am interested and they meet the criteria I look for then I simply send a hello message and just be myself as the conversation evolves.If they respond back. If not oh well. There is no need to spam or pester anyone to the point they block or report you. Other than that I pretty much just answer all messages / flirts I receive.

I hope you're speaking for yourself because I am far from desperate, how ever I do find strings like this highly entertaining.

SO TRUE, BEING CONGRUENT WITH WHO YOU ARE IS A WINNER....WHAT MEN DO NOT REALIZE

IS WOMEN TEST US TO SEE IF WE ARE WHO WE SAY WE ARE......

Well as 'break the ice' comes from Shakespeare you could always use another of his.

Try a serenade like Romeo himself.

sometimes women feel over whelmed with mail ...
and do not even open some of it ... but as others have said don't come off as desperate ... and don't freak if someone you make like does not like you ... move on... and think might not even have anything to do with you ... welcome ... a lot of really cool people in the forum's ... just take your time to get to know them ...

It seems like a hammer an chisel is exactly what you need these days everyone is uptight to the extent they wont even look at you let alone acknowledge you out in public. Everyone has this idea in there head that every person they don't know is out to get them. This whole thing started evolving after 911. Social skills have suffered. What if! He or she might be one of all these ugly thoughts running though my head. GET A GRIP ON YOU MIND PEOPLE! Sorry but I have been around to see the changes and I feel the pain. too.

my daughter and her friend told this handsome guy that I had said he was good looking while I went to the restroom and gave him my number.

Hello,
To break the ice you should be decent to your girl. I be completely honest with the girls i meet on these sites, since girls like honestly they give a good response everytime

Actually your first mistake is to be desperate... I don't care if you are female or male the opposite sex can smell it a mile away... So actually become comfortable being alone first, in other words become "not desperate" Then relax... How do you say "hello" in the real world.. Pretty much the same way.. Except take the time to read the profile and find something that you have in common with said person you want to email. That is the first two steps.



Ummm browsing profiles, glad you said mostly and not all is the way to find who you are interested in.. Now if you are looking at "one' profile 15x a day yeah, that would be creepy.



This last paragraph confuses me could be the cold meds but I don't get it sorry,
Bottom line be who you are and begin as you will continue... You are basically only trying to attract that "certain one" the rest who cares...

So be yourself,
When sending a first email think of it as nothing ventured nothing gained.

Send more than Hi...
Actually read the profile instead of just looking at the pictures. Find something in there to comment on.
Best wishes in your search

Ask for nude photos. That'll break something.

Woooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!

In the "real world " I can usually walk into a room an lick my own eyebrows. Things generally take care of themselves.

It's different here. I feel ya Brother.

I say be yourself.

It can be helpful to Copy info from a profile that you are interested in to a separate file on your computer so that you can refresh your memory without having it appear that you are stalking. Some people expect others to remember every thing about them even when they dont know them at all.

As for breaking the ice learn not to be desperate and be yourself while accepting others as they are.

Talking in the forums is a good place to practice talking with out being desperate to get what you want.

Try to be moderate when you speak or starts a conversation.Women don't really feel overwhelmed if you're going to be blunt asking for some nude photos ( there you definitely pulled the trigger to get blocked or reported) we sense right away what a man wants in an instance

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