why does it seem that most women like men who treat them like crap, or abuse them mentaly or phsycaly. an wont stay with the guy who treats them like a queen?

well those woman are stupid.. most woman always want to date the bad boys.

The man who treats them like a queen comes across as limp-wristed and unappealing -- like overcooked asparagus. That is not to say that the man who treats them like crap is really any more appealing (they often end up leaving those guys too.) Frankly, I think what's missing from both relationships is an attitude of mutual admiration and partnership.

To look at it from the other side of the mirror, don't you look for a woman with a little bit of attitude? Would you really enjoy a relationship with a woman who was like, "Yes dear, you always have such good ideas. May I make you a sandwich? Do you want me to bring you a beer with that?"

I dont know even my sister is like that she allways goes after the sicky wifebeater loosers

I never was attracted to the bad boy. I actually like the clean cut look. To each his own.

you got a good point Eph.

I am a little rough arround the edges, but have a big heart

i concur with eph - i want a man to "mostly" give me what i want - but every now and then - i like the throw down. if you allow me to walk on you, i probably will. so don't let me

of course, i dare anyone to get physical with me - that is intolerable - and i will have to do some lip rippin

I feel this wasy to. Remember nice guys finish last.

CB I like your style, Lip rippin

yup it may be true but I just dont have it in me to be cruel

I've never been attracted to 'bad boys' either and have yet to be treated like a queen. Not sure I want that either. I would just prefer to being liked/loved for who I am and treated as an equal! Is that asking to much?

well - i think there is a difference between a bad boy and a jackass. i consider myself strong, physically and mentally, and you need to be the same. otherwise, the balance of power is way off. i mean, granted, i am always the ultimate boss, but you need to at least be able to put up a fight!

The combination of the 'bad boy' appeal with the downside of 'settling for less' syndrome. Some people don't know of anything better if they're used to a type of behavior.

I do have a backbone and a strong one at that but I just see so many women with the JACKASSES and I dont get it

Well I know in my case I have ended up with a cheater and a wife beater. Both times when there true colors showed I got out. I truly want a genuine nice guy but can't seem to find one. They all want to play and not settle down.

Any woman whom allows herself to be treated badly is not a woman!!!!!! I also beleive if you conduct your self as a lady you will be treated as such.. Ladies Don't allow any one to disrespect you!!!!

TheiaLynn, you have to be careful with words like those. That's the same sort of defeatist language that abusive men use to humiliate women into staying in bad relationships. Once a woman believes that she's not a [real] woman, it is easier for her to succumb to hopelessness.

There are good guys out there who don't cheat on or beat there ladies I know I'm one of them. I have very little use for guys who cheat on their ladies and beat them. I've been brought up to believe that the mans job is to protect the lady from all harm.