It's not something you would ever want to talk her into, understand

Unfortunately, unless you have a crystal ball that works and you know how to use it....one never knows just what the other person is thinking.

That may be her way of seeing if you truly are interested, or she may have strong feelings for you that scare her. But until she can be honest with herself, and you, respect her requesst. HOWEVER....have a chat with her first. Tell her that not only in this instance, but ALL instances, you are trusting what she says is what she means. Explain that she cannot rely on your being able to find hidden meanings, if there are any.

I had a guy tell me that once, and it really stuck. I appreciated it very much. It removed all the game-playing and potential for hurt feelings. From then on, I asked for what I needed rather than expecting the other person to be able to read my mind. (after all, it is not a novel, rather a short story LOL)

At any rate, after the chat, remain friends, but live your life with no expectations. Do not put your life on hold for a "maybe," as the real thing may be lurking just around the corner.

That's my two cent's worth...

I think you should move on and then you find that she just might come right back to you. Women are like that, if they think you don't find them that interesting anymore~~they come running!!
Never think its alright to be put on the back burner, you are to good for that! You deserve to be treated as number one, not second best. So move on my friend and see what happens :flowerforyou

Drop her a line every once in a while. Otherwise,continue looking for what you want in the meantime.

simple .. easy ..

Stay as friends.

Move on for romance.

she is telling you in a nice way she dont want ya...

so i would say WALK AWAY...

and good luck to you...

JMO, but I think she is trying to tell you she is just not into you. Keep looking, never give up...there is someone out there that is meant for YOU.

Listen... understand... and decide if she could be just a friend... and whether or not YOU could be just a friend... then be friends or not...

I have friendships that have been long ones which started out as a crush... open and honest communication let all involved know where the intentions lay, and a wonderful friendship grew out of it...

Thank her for the honesty...no matter what you choose...really

Roll out and keep looking. Anytime a woman tells you, "Let's just be friends, and see what happens down the line", that's a surefire guarantee that NOTHING is going to happen down the line.

Yep!! ^^^ What he said

don't know what to tell you... I'm in the same boat... met her on line, we talk everyday and that part is going great, but when i comes down to actually meeting we set a time and it's a no show..... "something came up". I understand because of her job but am i being too understanding... I don't wat to pressure her and she cals back to apoligise, i guess i'm a softy, Do i continue on.... I do like her I like her a lot..... and we have become good friends...

btw whisperandwinks.... you hit it right on the head.... I read your responce twice.... I now know what i'm going to do...Thanks.

I don't think you answered whether you are interested in being her freind. Sounds like no. Don't worry about how quick the relationship was... there are 2 involved and its natural.

I've had many dates turn from general interest and fooling around into freinds but I didn't feel any love lost and they are great freinds. Did have a little rough patch with each of them though and we distanced ourselves for a few months before fully making that switch.

It's a good thing this happened early.

J

Glad I could help, Fresno9324

I would let it alone and maybe check in every month or so to see how she is doing. JMO

Personally I think you should stay friends, but don't wait around for her. Date and if you meet someone else, then go with it. Just don't let her keep you at arms length until she has exhausted her other possibilities! Best of luck to you!

I would say thank you for being honest with me, friend. Then I would spend time with my other friends.