There is a book called the 5 love languages which explains that we all express our love in 5 main ways including


1. Loving or affirming words eg saying I love you. You did a great job, thank you, you are beautiful
2. Acts of service eg taking out the trash, cooking, helping with a project etc
3. Physical bonding eg hugging , kissing, sex etc
4. Quality time. eg a conversation, eating together, dating
5. Gifts either bought or made

And I would like to add 2 more languages which I think many people need

6. Reassuring presence. : when the person is troubled, you arent giving advice or platitudes., but the look in your eyes, the feel of your hand on theirs , a reassuring smile are all quiet comforting gestures showing concern. I actually dont think everyone is capable of this. Its a rare gift

7 Space: The gesture of giving a person their breathing space when they need it without feeling inaccessible. This is a tough one to navigate.

So my questions are..

1. What are the love languages that you need or appreciate the most?

2. Have you ever felt like the love language you were speaking wasnt being understood or appreciated by the person you gave it to because it wasnt the love language that they speak?

#3 physical bonding...I have much rope and experience in this area.

Thanks by offering these a person can learn to identify their own preferences and that of a partner for better communication and support Hope people will see how each is important and what needs to be done to facilitate each other in more helpful and nurturing ways...

The love language that I need and appreciate most is body language

What a shocker... Never saw this one coming Max

thankyou sybariticguy :)


And which love languages from the list mean the most to you ?

hi Rooster Somehow I suspect most of the men will agree with you and Max

# 4 Quality time is number one for me

You forgot date night and making private time separate from the home for special time together and paying,attention to the relationship itself to grow.

I want the whole lot. Does that mean I have to have 7 guys?


I would like a bit of everything, minus the rope, Max lol

The fun part is what someone best hears may not be what they communicate best as people usually learn this by watching parents who may have had different languages.

I give best
a) affirming words
b) physical bonding
c) quality time

I receive best
a) acts of service
b) physical bonding
c) affirming words

If they know what's good for them

I like the language of french. Her & I can speak that all over each other.