Hello
Im falling in love with a man that may be in love with someone else.I met him through a mutual friend.My friend told me it was her best friend.Come to find out,they just met at the end of October.My boyfriend let her move in with him to help her get on her feet. He told me when i first met him that he was very attracted to her but then she started having different men over every night and he changed his mind about her.She had a lot of undesireable people comming to his house and his landlord warned him that if the traffic did not stop,he would be evicted.Well traffic did not stop and they were evicted. Now keep in mind this was the end of November of 2014.I met him Jan 26 of 2015.They rented a business office together and were in the process of getting a house together.
As time went on he found out that his father was terminally ill.And this woman brought to my attention that he called her first.Also we were talking one day about my boyfriend and something came up and i said well i would ask him and she said 'call him' but he was working and could only use his phone at lunch time and he told me not to call him.to that she replied that was crazy because he talked to her evereyday at his llunch.I was mortified.See this woman was saying these things to me just to mess with me.I eventually confronted him and told him that i thought he still had something for her.He told me that I was the one he loved and they were just friends.Hes very overweight and NOT her type at all. I think that SHES not interested but he is.
One night she came to my door and wanted to talk about it and I told her what i thought as well. She said she looked at him like a father but told me id never haver him because he is hers.She just tugs that line every now and then to see if hes still there.She knows full well how he feels.But they both tell me that I am the one he loves.Her and I are no longer friends because of this situation.He calls her everyday.
I want to believe him SO MUCH.they ARE both single so theres no reason they couldnt be togetherExcept shes not attracted..shes a tease.Could i just be insecure"I really love this man .Hes good to me and I have never connected with anyone like this.I cannot be second to anyone.I spent too much of my life playing second to my deceased husbands life style.Please ...I need a different perspective before I screw up something that may be really good..

Then show him your forum post and then have him post his perspective.

That's one of the benefits of a relationship.

You get the perspective of someone who is actually in the relationship with you.

If you don't trust their perspective, if you can't find any contentment with what they say and how they feel, especially in response to yours?

That should tell you something.

Honestly, I am not sure what to say here because there could be several scenarios with only one perspective. Do you feel insecure. In my opinion, in a relationship, if it's a trusting one, there should be no room for insecurities. If I can't trust a person, then I shouldn't be with them.

Plus you call him you boyfriend and refer to him as single in the same story. Which is he single or your boyfriend? He can't be both.