well i would think that if you have met and you both like each other then maybe thats the time, or when you both tell one another you love them maybe

I don't know about the whole "I love you" thing. I think a relationship should be exclusive before that even hits the table.

After the first date

actually i agree with trouble and baseball on that, straight away as soon as you have met and clicked

Yea, I think if you personally go on a date and like her and shes still dating other guys that that is a bit underhanded. I think once you start "seeing" someone unless you make it mutual that you date around that it should be exclusive it's only fair to the one in the relationship who likes to see one person at a time.

if 1 has others, then the other can too.

if it becomes stronger, then exclusiv

When both parties agree to make that exclusive commitment.

exclusive relationship.... moving way to fast for me

...when you talk and you get that feeling right here (pointing to upper body region, you know what I am saying...gut instinct pplace)

...when thoughts drift to that person in between board meetings and pouring coffee, mundane acts yet you catch yourself smiling at a conversation from a week ago or longer

...you like the time you spend together and look forward to it and have an afterglow that can linger for days and that is just from one phonecall

...you love his laugh and the fact he makes you smile, grin and crack up laughing so hard, your tummy in the morning is sore

...you enjoy the intellectual conversations and can't wait to share your daily events and trivial things with the other

...when you realize this relationship has so many positives going for it and you want to see where it leads, either to another level of emotion and longevity or a deeper friendship that you never could have experienced without taking a chance on going exclusive

...when it goes past infactuation, drives by the lust stage and arrives at a point where it feels natural and comfortable and you just know (pointing to heart now)...

and while the timeframe is going to vary from person to person and relationship to relationship, as long as you are both on the same wavelength and on the same page and desire to be exclusive with one another and both parties understand what that term means to both... then do it...

Life is short...enjoy it.




"During courtship we should keep our eyes wide open, but after marriage keep them half-shut."

before the second time

second time of what? LOL
Huge filler in the blanks there adj4u....

Adj4u.... very unlike you to pass up a reply in explaining...LOL

so again please elaborate....

I think you both know...atleast you better!!!
If you are having sex and saying I love you, and someone is doubting its not exclusive then something went terribly wrong. I think this is why I am kind of out of the whole dating thing, I think any more you better talk about it just to make sure!!!

I think right b4 you serve the divorce summons

become exclusive before you serve divorce papers?
.... right.....


(nope yokoke read the thread title right)
(must of have been the airspace between the ears for Mike)

Think if we are really here to find that special person then if you click and take it to the next "level" then it should become exclusive. You can't really give that person a true chance while seeing others too. Think it's called commitment...are we scared.
If it works out great and if not then see ya on chat again lol

I have a friend who I love her to death, but she always seems to have one warming 'just in case' the current one doesn't work out or she will date several at once... how she does it I haven't a clue.

Give me just 1. Like you said perfectly lacileo1 to give that person a chance and see if the next level exists...you gotta take the 'playa' mentality out and decide, is this what i want? Dating is a choice. Being exclusive is a choice. To love is a choice. To stay in a relationship is a choice. But it would not be fair for that other person to NOT know your heart or your intentions. And being honest is where it comes in... that means being honest with yourself first.

It is hard to put your heart back out there once you have been burned.... served nicely on a platter with two options, you have the 2 hands option that will hold your heart and cherish it...second option is the knife where they stab your heart.... either option of not knowing is scary....