I would agree with you and that would be a early warning sign of the motives there. Hold out for someone who keep it real with you and on ur terms.

Some years back, before I became a father, a woman on this site said she would only date people who were parents. Becoming a parent is a game changer, and today, I fully understand why that woman had the attitude she did. She wanted someone who understood first hand what parenting was about and didn't want to have to deal with the selfishness. I've been a single parent since June and would be perfectly fine if I was for years to come. For whatever relationship comes my way, if my daughter suffers because of it, I'm doing it wrong. There are several posts in this thread I agree with, because it's really about the kids being safe and happy too, and adult relationships secondary.

Beautifully said !!

well Mama ...

Internet dating and long distance relationship with the phone bone is difficult as it is getting the cart wrong way to the horse for the marriage carrage.

One can find a person they like here ... and then when you meet up .. there is no chemistry what so ever. This is a huge disappointment and it really hurts a lot to invest that kind of emotional capital in a person you have never seen ... really.

As in most other relationship you meet in person .. then chat and hang out and go slow ... as the chemistry is there ... which I am guessing that is how you did it with the Father of your child(ren). You originally did it with the horse and carriage business the right way around.

so .. that is how it works best.

Meet a person on the net .. and if you hit it off ... check it out quickly over coffee or lunch. It is harsh to deal with it that way .. however it saves a lot of time and emotional disappointment in the end.

Time and emotional capital you can spend with the right person.

With that said ... you got a divorce cause you are dysfunctional and an addict. So you pick guys who are also dysfunctional and addicts.

Fix that up in you .. then you will find guys who also have had that fixed up.

Simple to say .. simple to do .. just a corker to get done.

sumbuddie wear blind sea