Are you typically in control of the relationship or is your significant other? You know, when you are actually in a relationship with someone.



OR......

He's in control. No problem with me.

I'm in control of my behavior.

Relationship is simply the interaction between two people.

It's not an external entity to be controlled.

There is no controlling the "relationship."

That's just a "kinder" way of saying "do you dominate your partner."

I try only to control myself and work to avoid manipulation, of her or by her.

I see it as: if one person has control over the other that means the other is ultimately seen and used as an extension of the person in control.

That leads to significant instability.

Although that type of relationship "can" work it usually means it's one of two types of relationship.
1. Where one person has an extremely weak ego and low esteem or self worth, needing the other person to take control in order to provide identity.

2. Where one person is passive aggressive and allows the other person to have the appearance of control (e.g. "you're the man, you're supposed to do that, that's what men do"). The person that appears to have control gets to have all the responsibility with none of the actual power.

So

communication is far more important as most people use learned behavior to try and establish roles and boundaries rather than directly address what's going on.
Becoming more reliant on direct communication and overcoming the baggage of expectations of how things are supposed to be causes a lot of problems.

I believe in true democracy in a relationship and that there is always a middle ground. I refuse to be the one that has to make all the choices but at the same time I will not be a door mat ether and if that means I'll be single for the rest of my life, oh well.

Only sex rele

Only sex no cantrol

Depends on what we're doing ..
If we're going for a drive I'm in control.
If we're in the bedroom, I don't mind giving up control... and then taking it back..wink wink.
Out of thebedroom
If decisions have to be made..
It's an equal partnership..then..

Controlling? Whooo? Meeee? Never!