have you ever reached to a certain point in life.
you're 'tad wobbly' in finding or should I say seeking balance in between career and romance?

Hello

Nope I am honest upfront that I have a career that at times is demanding and my life isn't my own for short times.

Either they accept that or they don't. And I would respect theirs.

you accept what each other has going on and encourage each other.
appreciate the time you can share and understand that the time when you're apart is only temporary.

nope I fully acknowledge the fact that mine has wobbled so far that it's completely tipped one sided in the direction of my degree..

Dang Ana you said it so much better than I did..

What's Romance? Should I have no1phD give a course on this???


On the serious side, I think it comes down to what you value most. Yes there are times that work requires your time and there is not much you can do about that but if you want romance (or a relationship for that matter), then you may need to fight and make time for that to happen (assuming the person you want to be with is valued more than work)...

Don't let work be your, or your partners, only life. It's not healthy for you or a relationship if you are in one.

That's my personal experience.

prioritize and balance..
rob from peter to pay paul..

One can't cuddle with a career. Romance takes priority.

Very true

truth is,there's really a struggle in finding the elusive answer to this.
well perhaps,only unconditional love could ever really understand????

Good response Ana. Undlfortunately, Sitka Rains and yourself are not the norms. Many gals want to be no.1 in a guys life. If they are tied into their career, they usually leave. It's happened to me a few times. Make the precious little time you have toghether special. If you care you will make it work.

I think honestly I am number one in his life. As he is in mine, he has a career or lifestyle that well sometimes comes first. For example, cow calving and needs help isn't going to wait for our date to be over. That is life.

Does that make me any less important No way.. I actually respect that he is like that.

When I am on call and called out I have to go period would I rather stay with him and enjoy my time of course I would.

Making the moments count is what is important. I think for me at this stage in life I want quality over quantity...

I want both a good relationship and a good income.
Both of these take time and the right mind-set.

If he loves you he'll understand how important the "career" is to you.

If you love him you'll understand that sometimes the "career" should take a back seat.

.. it's hard balancing your career with somebody you're romantic with.. now throw in children.... and you want to talk about complicated..lol... constantly feel like you're being pulled in 3...well. OK throw in an ex-wife in there..4 different directions....
. You constantly feel like you're pleasing everyone but yourself... but sometimes you find a little pleasure in there for yourself...

In my relationships before I always make it a point to my partner to understand and respect each other's priorities in life. I won't let romance jeopardize my career and vice versa , so communication is important. I don't take personal calls during my office hours unless it is really important but, I do make time for my partner during my breaks and when I'm done with work, the instant I enter the house I inform my partner that I'm home which means "I'm all yours", we could spend quality time no matter how tired and sleepy I am I devote my self to him and he does the same.

Once in my life when I was young i had also given up romance for my career advancement. I did it for my own personal growth and development. No regrets, though I did wonder what would have happened to me if I chose to go with him.....the choices we make in our lives sometimes lead us to wonder or question the "What ifs....." of life. But reality is we have to face and live with the choices we make, learn and improve to become a better person.

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