Hi, is anyone else a widow or widower and can tell me when they felt comfortable dating?

yep - i know a widdow.....her vibrator broke down about a week ago- god....did u have to pick to saddest subject in a happy site?

*LOL* cute.....but it's a relationship advice site right? Just cuz you think it's sad doesnt mean it isnt a real question *L* there arent those of us who deal with it *L*

awww- thanks, sweety- are u from ny?

Not something I've been through but I think I can imagine the loss (to what degree I can based on my thoughts). I have seen many profiles here of people who are widowed.

From what I've read it is to each their own on the dating. You have to feel free to enjoy things again and it is likely to take some time.

Best of luck and welcome to the site.

Sincerely,

John

no, I'm in colorado :) howdy from across the country!!

Blast !!!!!....Colorado - see what i mean, people?....a perfect woman id snatch up and get along with perfectly...and not a damn thing i can do because she lives several states away.....you are a looker !!!! and a beautiful smile to boot !!!

thank you John, you are so lovely to say that :)

Ash I'm not a widow nor do I know a widow/er but I would say that one has to go with what's in their heart... We can feel and be in many different frames of mind at times and maybe not be so happy with the outcomes but if you know who you are and what you're capable of dealing with, then I say do what you feel is right and walk yourself carefully through any parts you may not think you did right. We're human and have a right to be happy and we won't always make the right choice.. Then again hindsight is 20/20 :-)

and thank you goo goo! *L* dag nab miles huh *L*

thanks Indn, you make a wonderful point :)

I am a widow, this is the second time that I have lost a husband, the first time I waited the year before I started dating, when I met my husband I wished I hadn't waited the year. I would have had more time with him. I lost my husband in July (on my birthday) so has been 5 months. The one thing he stressed over and over to me is don't stay alone, find someone you can care about, someone who will love you back. Life is to short especially at my age to wait to long to start dating. I have gone on a couple dates, but nothing has come of them. I didn't feel guilty, just didn't mesh with who I was going out with. Follow your heart dear, it won't tell you wrong.

goo i think hat was very rude of u to say that to her and ppl like u dont undrstand how ppl felings get hurt with the things u say and what they have gone through and just maybe if it ever happen to you maybe u would think before u say things

ashy im very sry i never been through it and i wish there was something i could say to help u but u will know when the time is right hun

I have been widowed for 2 years 7 months now. Finally getting comfortable with it. An aide last night noticing how I call everyone hon said I have so many wives.

Hi, I am a widower. This is a difficult question to answer.
My wife had serious health problems for many years. The year before she died she spent 5 months in the hospital. With all the life and death situations that year I was a mess. Shortly after she died I was ready to get out of the house and stop dealing with doom and gloom. I can't say I really dated, but I did meet someone shortly after she died. We ended up in a six year relationship. I really don't know if I got out there too soon or not. Biggest problem is the other person thinks you are comparing them to your spouse. All you can do is what feels right for you.

no but the last couple of yrs in my marriage i wish i was then there would of been no reason for a divorce

and sorry that you lost your husband i cant imagine how that would be to love someone and lose them..... i think maybe like anything else it takes time..... u will know when u are ready

googoo..I think you are very rude and arrogant!! Maybe you need to think before you type!!!

I am very sorry for your loss! I think you just need to go with your heart, you will know when its time

It is hard for divorced people to relate to widowed folks. They were happy to be rid of their spouse. Many divorced people don't really know what a good relationship is like. So it is difficult for everyone.