My ex and I broke up over 3 years ago. We dated for 8 months and he said he broke up with me cuz he didn't want anymore kids ( I don't think that was the real reason)... anywho, we would shoot emails back and forth here and there. Well he just recently started IMing me. The first IM we talked about how much fun we had while we were dating and we laughed about old times. Well the second time he IMed me, all we talked about was s*x and how wonderful it was... He has a picture of one of my breasts and he admitted he looks at it. I also found out he has been dating this girl for 15 months and she lives with him. I asked him when the wedding was and he said hes not engaged, so I asked why, and he said that he was in no rush. Well I wanna know is, what does he want? Why is he contacting me and why talk about THOSE things with me? I have asked my friends, and they all gave the same answer. I wanna know what you guys/gals think... then I will let you know what they said... I do agree with them. Thank you

To me...everything happens for a reason. Why did the two of you break up in the first place? I would find out what his REAL reason was. I don't think I would just rush back into his arms. I truly believe that....everything we go through..leads up to where we are NOW. Take your time....

wow can you say 3 way????

He is keeping you for only an option.......pffffffft get on with your life geeeeeeez~~~~

Yeah, I was very much inlove with him... and I do not want to get hurt again. So I am taking my time and I am not expecting anything. I am keeping this as, just friends...

I think he broke up with me because his mom was dying, and he wanted to spend more time with her... why do I say that?? Cuz when we first started dating, he did say he wanted more kids, but he wanted to make more money to take care of them. Well since both his parents passed, he got a lot of money from them. So I dunno.

I am living my life with him out of the picture like i have been for three years. I am just curious why hes doing this.

sounds to me like he is a cheater and a player. yes sometimes it is good to look back on the good times that you had with him.
it ended for a reason and it sounds like he is looking across the fence and seeing greener grass. dont you look at it as a form of cheating with him contacting you while there is someone living with him?
the best thing you can do is end all contact and get on with your life.

Thanks K.

I just wanted to add that my friends and I think its a booty call.

Agree completely with MDL7070. You've lived without him in your life for the last three years,stay on track with that.