Not to kill the mood. But at various stages of my own life I've been dense, unsure, and maybe should have swept Mrs. Rights feet out from under her. What I'm saying is, you girls need to get out there and flirt and say 'it'. Of course there's tact and manners , but guys need to know that 'they' are still worth it too. Sometimes I feel like I have to do better, be better, blabbity blah blah. I wish a girl would be half as dilligent toward me as I have been. Mr. perfect isn't out there. He's human, less than perfect, but he just wants love (you can tell I'm venting, can you, I can,,,,,OK). I believe you can waste your whole life lookiong for the "one", when all you need is just someone to love and be loved by. Even as a christian I believe you "choose" who to be with,and I think many women need to stop looking for a fantasy. I just see alot of girls marrying older and older holding out on a dream instead of living life.

I'm not mad. I just think more effort needs to go into living rather than dreaming about it.

It's true, the honey moon doesn't last, it takes effort and committment after marriage. You only get out of a marriage what you put into it. You can dream all day, but it's not a magic wand. It's committment and putting the other person first that will give you those "highs" in marriage......Ok, rambling now. I'm done.


I love you ladies out there I want everyone to have a love of their own. Yes....awesome! Go get 'em. Find him and sweep the 'dense guy' off HIS feet....actually, just push him over.

Later Taters, God bless, Ti

Hmm, I'm sorry to burst your bubble here but this sounds to me like a cry for help rather than a motivational speech to get women to contact men without us having to do anything.


That's what I get from this.

But yeah, wouldn't life be easier if all of the women just contacted us? I would be happy.

I agree with you neuenjins and sincere. How is a guy supposed to know that a girl is interested in him if she doesn't let him know and vice versa.

You've never been married dude. I see it every day. It's why the divorce rate sucks. Men do it too though. In a way, this whole site we're on becomes a fantasy if you don't put some real action in to it. Faith without actions is dead. And I see little action from most people about marriage and relationships in general. Alot of dreaming, wishing, and complaining, but little positive action.

You got your opinion, that's fine. I won't deny I'm immune to it in my own life at times.

I like my bubble though, and you don't have the power to burst it any way

I think a part of what he is trying to say "sincereman51" is that it's unfair for us men to have to initiate the coversations all the time instead of it being 50/50. That's what I got out of it, anyway. I fully agree with him.

Let me tell ya, I've initiated plenty and don't get replies. I am not exactly a young little Barbie thang, but I don't exactly have to go 'round with a bag on my head either.

This goes both ways IMO. I've said it before on here, there really is not point in being on a dating site looking for whatever it is you are looking for if you aren't willing to be a bit vulnerable and put yourself out there.

i think women should fill there pockets with a variety of men , and weed out the ones there not interested in

get er done girls

Misty4ran, that's real immature.

I DID ramble a bit. See, today is one of those dense days.

God bless you guys anyway, my imperfection is showing.

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How do you know I've never been married "dude"?? And trust me, everyone see's all of the same stuff you do everyday so please don't try and sit on a high horse and preach about it.

I still say you were crying and whining about it, I'm a great judge of character and well, of course you will deny it but we both know your intent.

Instead of crying about things, take some of your own words and put them to use. As for your bubble being burst, of course I burst it, otherwise you wouldn't be defensive by saying things like "you have never been married" when you have no way of even knowing that.

Thanks though buddy.

Sincere..... I love you dude. Your' very predictable.

Oh, and the 'married' thing....it's on your profile.

Peace anyway dude.

nuenjins..... you are very transparent

COF86
thats the problem why settle for the least when you can get the best

people lie all the time on profiles

I agree, Misty. It sounded like you were saying that men are just things that you can throw away. Do you see what I'm sayin'? I'm not tryin' to start any crap, it just sounded like that to me.

Do you want to fight sincere....that's what I'm getting. If you're going to be all negative then please, don't respond to anything I post. Negativity steals energy and I don't like it. I used to fight and be a sarcastic "ass". But it never did any good but temporarily make you feel better. I can't fight you from over here dude, take a karate class or somthing and get your aggressions out.

That's all I got for you, No more response from meif it's all just one upmanship.

Find some peace man. Talk to God.

Hmm, well mr.guy, if someone here want's to fight I would say it's you seeing as you need to use words such as "sarcastic ass" which of course you are aiming towards me.

Secondly mr. stud, this is a public forum and you will get both positive and negative answers and replies. I suggest that you become aware of that fact.

For being a Christian man with all of this love in your heart, you seem to have a pretty negative side as well.

I need not "one up" you as this is just a website and well, if I hurt your feelings, too bad, live with it.

You have a great night too.

Personally, I think it is WAY more difficult for a woman to approach a man than visa verca. Purely because this culture doesnt teach it.
and then theres the whole, rejecting the girl thing...
A dude can go up to a girl, try his luck and gets shot down in flames; he either just walks away or gets emotional and reacts to her. There is no negative light on the woman.

However if it was the other way around, its just like back in the old days where if a girl asked you to dance you couldnt say no.