I have. The most problem with women that's not them selves, I shouldn't. Have to wait 3months of. The friendship then the real you come out wow where. That come from

Is in many ways impossible.

You inject yourself with mind altering drugs when you change your normal resting state.

You're happy? You act differently than when you're sad, than when you're neutral.

And if you don't act happy to be around someone?
Why would they want to be around you, how would they know you want to be around them.

You really want to date someone emotionless?

Or are you referring to them actively hiding important information from you?
Like "oh yeah, I got herpes," or, "5 kids," or, "100k in debt," or, "a boyfriend," then it's not so much not "being themselves" as forcing you to figure out who they are and not just handing you something easy.


Other than that, nobody really knows who they are.
Not as an absolute.

They only have an idea of who they think, fear, and/or hope they are and it's horribly biased.

At best they have an idea of what their reaction will be in certain situations. e.g. "Oh, I'm not that type of person. I'd never hit a child, eat another human, hurt you."

But again, that's based on a biased perception of themselves.
In many cases based on something they've never actually experienced.

So....good luck finding a woman who is always "themselves" 24/7.


Really, all you get the chance to do is spend enough time with someone to rack up the experiences to figure out a consistent pattern of how they behave in certain situations.

That's beneficial solely because people tend to fall into routine patterns in life.
Wake up, shower, shave, go to work, complain about work, make money, spend money, come home, eat, sleep, pursue what makes them happy.


Eh. IMO it's not really the responsibility of a person to try and "be themselves" so much as it's your responsibility to figure out if you can continually accept them for who you think they are based on how you judge them on an ongoing basis after shared experiences.

There's a lot of social training that keeps judging you bad if you "judge" someone else, so people try to pretend they aren't judgmental to avoid that, and then complain when they aren't compensated with the lack of being judgmental with information/personality easily handed to them and committed to.
i.e. "okay, I'm not judging you, waaaaaah, you keep acting in ways that make me judge you rather than just behave in good ways, it's not fair, behave good, don't make me think!"