ok.. this probably belongs in the stupidest thing you ever said thread..lol.. but what does..BBD.. stand for?. Lol.. biggest baddest Daddy... Big Bird dude... but but darling... big breasted Divas..

I have been observing FWB arrangements for years now, and Ipersonally dont condemn anyone who chooses it . I think there are people who can make that work , but only if one person DOES NOT end up falling in love with the other because this messes up the equilibrium.

But I think in the majority of cases, one person generally ends up developing romantic feelings towards the other person.

What makes a successful FWB possible in my opinion are the pillars of honest communication and clarity of boundaries.

But very often the person who develops the romantic feelings starts dealing with a lot of inner conflict , which they fail to communicate to the other person, so the other party continues to operate under the mutually agreed upon contract, while the romantically vulnerable person is flailing around erratically, while trying to cope with their unscripted and non-contractual feelings.

That's where things get messy and often leave a sour taste in both parties' mouths .

Nothing wrong with them. You simply have to understand all the positives and negatives that go with an FWB. If you can live with those then get your rocks off.

well,, why do you need a commitment to have sex, or be intimate with someone?

Bigger, Better, Deal... I had to google the acronym..

hahahhaaa...see now ya learned something new


oh and uh hell no this ain't even close to being the dumbest thing ever come outta my mouth...


there was this one time

I was chewing on laffy taffy
and crunched into something hard

so I spit it out of my mouth

and with it came my 800 dollar crown

We all need the humans touch from time to time , sex or not.

You forgot @band camp

Yes it can course problems but so can normal relationships. If you go into FWB you know what you are going into but I know you can't help feelings changing as soon as feelings change both involved need to be open and talk and maybe walk away and hope to stay freinds or both start something more serious it worked for Justin Timberlake lol x

.. no no I was not saying that it was you saying the dumbest thing ever ..I was applying.. that me asking the questions well you know what I mean..lol

well.. I don't need a commitment.. but there needs to be a commitment between the two parties that they will only be for each other..
And well you probably know as well as I do. Wink wink.. or maybe you don't!.lol.. but anywho.. most often in friends-with-benefits relationships..
One of them usually finds another friend... it's not that they are immoral people.. it's just that they enjoy instant gratification... they can usually emotionally detach themselves from a situation... which generally means they won't have any real problem jumping from one relationship to another.. just my witty itty bitty opinions

...heck..the FWB has its pros...but after trying it a few times...no thanks..the I have no feelings but like sex routine gets old and usually one party gets attached..regardless of who gets attached or decides it's no longer working...seems to me that you just wind up with an unfeeling heart...then when you meet someone that you might be happy with...your heart may not know ...it's grown numb and can't feel...jmo..

The issue isn't about commitment, in my opinion . The issue is about having clearly defined and compatible expectations.

FWBs generally have a spoken or unspoken agreement that there are no demands on each other,but like I said before very often one person develops romantic feels for the other and those feelings are usually accompanied by new expectations or hopes , and ultimately resentment towards the other person when these hopes are not fulfilled

That is unfair to the person who doesn't reciprocate those feelings.

Let me give a small example.

Prior to feelings emerging, no one demanded the other person to justify their unavailability for an FWB date.

But all of a sudden if one person develops romantic feelings , and the other party says they are unavailable to hang for lets say twice in a row, all of a sudden , the romantically vulnerable person could become resentful towards their FBW because it hurts for them to think of their FWB spending alot of time with someone else instead of them.

If both FBWs are able to keep their feelings out of the equation, then all is well , but when romantic feelings creep in, which they often do for one person, the rules of engagement get so messed up.

If feelings get involved and the reciprocation of feelings isn't there, that's when it ends. Geez, it's not that hard to figure out.
For those that can't seem to grasp that concept, then FWB isn't for them, and that's probably a good thing.

If you haven't figured it out yet Scoobert, maybe one day you will.

People often do not use their brains when it comes matters of the heart or the loins

Ummm, I figured this out in the past. I spoke from past experience. With that, I'm now done typing about FWB.

Being as innocent as an angelic angel thing,

I have no idea what is being discussed in this thread lol

If someone wants fwb or one night stands...that is their business. I don't really care.

It's not for me, doesn't rock my world and not part of my beliefs....and NO it has nothing to do with fear. That is silly

tell ya why it would not set well with me

smells too much like settling


I want the whole enchilada baby
all bells whistles
all the mushy gushy feelings for both of us


right from the get go

Humans with STDs ask that, too.