if he loves you but is not in love with you means he cares about you but not enough to want you for the rest of your life.

If that is the kind of relationship you want, then go for it.....

i am smart again also, however every now and then i have a relapse into being stupid

i think he is using you--

we all can be stupid......no one can say that they havent been stupid......but if you want a better relationship, you may have to get a better man

And before you get started on it, No he is not seeing anyone else. This I know cuz I was a detective and I have ways of tracking and hearing what is said on the phones, so yes I check up on him to see if he is lying about anything and he knows that if he does he will loose the best thing that ever came into his life.

That was your comment~~do you really want to "check-up" on him all the time? What kind of life would that be? I think it would be miserable!!! Leave him while you can

Sometimes we all take on "stupid" as our middle name.

If you need to spy on him, he's so no worth your love.

i love you(the sex thatis) but not in love with you ( don't want all the responsabilty that being in love with you brings) and thanks for all the sex. some men have to have a womanin their life no mater what. its just until the one he really wants comes along. then he will be willling to make that commitment. sounds like he is still searching . your a pretty gal take a little more time to find the truth in your relationships. let the person you hook up know what you want up front. if you don't see it going that way look again. sorry you're going thru that crap hope things work out for you.

I think Maximmus hit the nail on the head. Been there and been through it, and that's exactly what I experienced. RUN from this guy. The betrayals only get worse.

Are we still on this? "I pitty the foo that gets cheated on and goes back!", says Mr. T I agree with Mr. T. Do you?! HUH?! HUH????!!!!

sad situation
however the same question can be asked to women.

Hi! I do not know what it is that you need explained to you. He had sex with other women while saying that he loved you? Does it really matter how he said this after doing something like that? To me it's a "no brainer" When someone loves someone else they just don't behave that way.

omg dear...its as plain as the nose on your face! You need to move on.. lose that creep to his own devices. Take care of you and your daughter.
jeepers.

Wow - this thread is from '07. I'm guessing that the situation is resolved now, one way or the other...