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Yes Talk With Her You Being Her Friend She Will Listen.
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Ont. she can have hundreds of options, i did
she has to be able to see the relationship from someone else's eyes to see the pattern, to see what her role in the relationship is. when that happens, if (only cuz i don't know her) she's a smart girl, she'll use those options you referred to, she'll get out, but only after seeing her role in the relationship, from a 3rd person's point of view |
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IF SHE WANTS TO GET AWAY FROM HIM, TAKE HER AWAY?
IF SHE WANTS TO STAY IN IT, YOU GET AWAY FROM HER? THERE IS NO MIDDLE GROUND? IF YOU THINK YOU CAN MAKE-UP HER MIND- YOUR WRONG? IF YOU WANT TO WATCH HER GO THROUGH THIS PAIN AND WITNESS HER PAIN AS IT HAPPENS(PUNCH BRUISES, TEETH KNOCKED OUT, MISSED UP FACE, OR KILLED) THEN STAY CLOSE TO HER AND WATCH? IM NOT IN ANYWAY BEING A SMART-ASS, I'VE DONE BOTH OF WHAT I TOLD YOU THAT YOU CAN DO, AND TRUST-ME YOU DON'T WANT TO STAY CLOSE, IF SHE WANTS HIM? AND IF YOU TOOK HIM OUT(KILLED) SHE WOULD (UN-KNOWINGLY) FIND ANOTHER ONE LIKE HIM? |
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Ont. plz, PLEASE don't walk away from her...she does need you
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hey Ontario
that's a very delicate situation, all you can do is just be her friend, and be there when she need you, because there is nothing you can do if she wants to stay in that relationship and the day she put an end to it then, help her, you can talk to her, and tell her was on your mind, but is up to her. |
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Ontario, be there for her, let her use you to vent. i was in an
emotionally, verbally & mentally abusive relationship for 14 yrs before i was able to escape. i didn't have anyone to talk to but my mom. she'd tell me that he was no good and other things like that and the more she told me that the more i tried to change him. you can't tell her what to do, but you can offer to listen and be there whenever she needs you. if she asks for your advice, tell her that she is the only one that can make the decision as to what to do. you can't make it for her. |
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Okay...I,ll just tell her to get rid of the guy...or I,ll wait for the
call from the police...! |
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THUMBS-UP!
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Ont. you are your own man..you make your own decisions
put yourself in her place.. this girl you been with, you think you're in love with, has hit you, shoved you against the wall, tried to choke the life outta you, and while you're sittin there wondering wtf...she's blamed YOU for her outburst. it's YOUR fault she hit you, you pushed her to the limit, and she wishes you wouldn't, that way she didn't have to feel the way she does, right before she hits you. now...(most men don't discuss ANY kind of abuse done by a female but in this hypothetical instance, you do lol) your mom, your dad, your best friends, ppl you grew up with all your life, have told you what a worthless piece of shit she is, for doing this to you, and they tell you to leave her. are you gonna do it? or are you gonna try to change yourself so this doesn't happen anymore..so you don't piss her off again, so she WINS those (who have told you to leave her) people over, and they finally start to like her. what are YOU gonna do? leave her? just cuz those that cared about you said so? i doubt it. you are your own man, you make your own decisions.. same as your friend, no one will TELL her to leave him, and have her do it. she has to come to that conclusion on her own. |
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it's a bad situation she's in ontario and unfortunately there probably
isn't anything you can do but be there for her when it all comes crashing down on her. you should definitely talk to her but don't pressure her. just talk to her and let her know that you are concerned about the situation and her safety as a friend. |
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I,m a guy...I,m not programmed for chick logic...!
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i don't understand it either but you know how it's gonna end
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Neither are we Ontario for we can't answer that any better than ya'll
can or it would not happen. |
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huh...?
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Hey Ontanio, you have a good heart. |
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The logic behind why they stay in a situation like that.
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Hi Chica,,,thanks, right T-Girl...!
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Ontario,
As a woman who has was raised in abuse as a child I can speak very honestly about this subject. While no one wants the abuse to continue. You have to understand this may be all she knows. Apparently she has low self esteem and doesn't see herself as the valuable person you (and everyone else) see her as. Out of a need for acceptance I chose wrong people (over and over) I was used to chaos and drama and it took me alot of time to begin to function in a "normal" non combative life. Abusive people seek and and can usually identify people who are insecure and needy and they prey on the characteristics. It makes them feel better about their own insecurities to be in control and manipulate others. This woman needs your friendship and your help. Please do be careful tho because I nearly lost my life to a crazed person who hunted me and tried to intimidate me at work etc. The person abusing her will see you as a threat. While we cannot always "fix" people we can be supportive. Build up the positive things you see in her and tell her why she needs something better. I hope this helps you (and your friend). God bless you and keep you both safe. |
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