Topic: ...To need a relationship...
Had2date's photo
Thu 10/25/07 08:42 AM
I geuss I am posting this to see if I am on of the few out there that seems to need a relationship...What I'm saying is it's hard to be alone...I'm not content to be alone...And i think their gotta be others out there that feel the same...For example people will go through hell in their relationships just to have one...
Ok...i'm done.....4 now
Ozz

PJ1987's photo
Thu 10/25/07 08:50 AM
I'm the same way, don't feel bad.

Dragoness's photo
Thu 10/25/07 08:52 AM
Well my best advice concerning that is a happy person alone is a much better partner in any relationship. People think they need to have someone to make them happy, happiness is internal. Some people think others judge them harshly because they are single, this is not true. There are alot of reason for thinking you need to have a relationship but most of them are co-dependent and dysfunctional. We would all love to have someone who we connect with at a deep level to share all that life gives but it does not define us.

That is my best advice. Get on here and post and someone will come to you, whether it works out to a relationship or just a friedship, your life will be that much richer either way.bigsmile

Good Luck

no photo
Thu 10/25/07 08:52 AM
Hey ...good to see another Idahonian here!! I think it really important to spend some time alone getting to know yourself! Nobody wants to be alone forever.....but it takes time to figure out what you want, what you like, and who you are. JMOflowerforyou

Amalie's photo
Thu 10/25/07 08:53 AM
i need 1 too...but sometimes i feel like i'd rather be misrable alone than with someone..we all just want happiness!

Had2date's photo
Thu 10/25/07 08:57 AM
Hello fresh mountain air...yea wish their were more idahoians around....And I liked your advice dragoness...It hit the nail the nail on the head so to speak...

UWannaBSpontaneous's photo
Thu 10/25/07 09:00 AM
I understand exactly what you are saying and have the same thoughts, at times, because I enjoy having a relationship 1 on 1. But my advise is don't let "needing a relationship" define who you are. Just enjoy life, focus on personal goals, be good to people, and someone somewhere will catch your eye sooner or later. I also believe that person will appreciate the confidence you have in yourself and connect better in the long run. Second to that is you'll like yourself even better for having that confidence. It's all about continued growth no matter what age.

PJ1987's photo
Thu 10/25/07 09:03 AM
well said UWBS.drinker

DTHRomeo's photo
Thu 10/25/07 09:07 AM
I think we might go through hell sometimes because there might be something worth it ahead of us ... Something worth to fight for and something worth to keep.

PJ1987's photo
Thu 10/25/07 09:09 AM
i hope so romeo, otherwise what are we fighting for at all?

Dragoness's photo
Thu 10/25/07 09:09 AM
flowerforyou

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Thu 10/25/07 09:09 AM
i think you need to be content alone before you can have a healthy relationship

bluebell's photo
Thu 10/25/07 09:11 AM
I think that we all want to feel loved and so we seek a relationship and we stay because of the fear of staying alone :cry:

DTHRomeo's photo
Thu 10/25/07 09:12 AM
One can only hope , right? :-)

PJ1987's photo
Thu 10/25/07 09:13 AM
all anyone can do is hope and wait, although waiting really stinks.....

Sensei's photo
Thu 10/25/07 09:34 AM
Hell this discussion is draging me down.
Just get out there and have some FUN!!
What ever happens was meant to be.

People like to be around fun people not sad sacks
CHEER UP!! its almost the weekend, time to go out
and have fun, who knows what may happen.

MaxDuo's photo
Thu 10/25/07 09:40 AM
Well I really want someone, but I don't think I have a great need for it. Like I'm trying to find someone now but if I don't... oh well... Just gotta try again before long.

Though I have a friend who I think needs to be in a relationship. He had one end over summer and pretty much set out to date the first new girl who talked to him a lot when we moved back into college haha.

I understand what you mean though. I just got out of a relationship because we didn't talk much anymore, and I felt really bad about ending it.

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Thu 10/25/07 09:49 AM
It's nice to be with someone, if they're right for you. But I'd much rather be alone than have to be with one more brain-dead shlub like....well, like most of the girls I've been with.

There are worse things than being alone. Like being with someone and WISHING you were alone.

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Thu 10/25/07 09:52 AM
i agree with Lex..the men i've been with noway (looney tunes) if u ask me..i'd much rather be alone..

Odlam's photo
Thu 10/25/07 09:58 AM
lol Lex, true

A short time out every now and then isn't a bad idea. You need to really think about what you're looking for before you actually start looking.

Also, imo anyways, you need to be a "complete" person by yourself even with nobody else. And then you find somebody else, and you make each other even better, lift each other up so to speak.