My boyfriend wants drop his grandson to his ex wife every second Friday. His son working some Saturdays then he has to drop grandson to his ex wife. My suggestion was if his son working keep grandson with him drop grandson next day to his son. But my boyfriend wants drop him to his ex Friday night. Whats your opinions?

wow ..trust is a base in every relationship...but trusting too much gives space to people to use that against us ...

If the ex is the grandmother, whats the big deal?

You know what...nevermind....draaaaMA!

So you have a mature boyfriend that is taking his OWN grandson to his grandsons REAL Grand-Mother's house on a regular pattern, maybe a court ordered visitation to prevent drama between family, or not; and you have to TRY to put a wrench in the system?

I don't know if you just want to find a reason to screw up your "love life" but this kind of attitude is exactly why mature men walk away.

AND why judges are starting to lock up people for custodial interference and slapping on nasty fines for wasting the courts time. INMHO As well they should.

Kids don't need to deal with Jealous OUTSIDERS complicating already difficult situations because they think they know better. Ever occur to you that maybe this child needs to go to someone besides the Grandpa?

And or the son that the child may only be able to have with supervision.

Or that the courts may be doing ongoing documentation of the child's condition in a non-intrusive way.

Maybe Grandpa wants to document the Grandchild's welfare.

Or actually share in the responsibility to care for this Grandchild who the Grandmother may have parented more than anyone else. Something that would make a young child very miserable if they could not see her.

Maybe he has a complicated health issue that a selfish person will not accommodate. Perhaps is allergic to cigarettes, pets, or cologne. You may be all that and a bag of chips to Grandpa but the Grandson has already got your number and doesn't want to deal with you.

Or both grandparents are kicking for transportation rather than give the Ex-wife a better settlement that would inhibit your social budget.

Just because you date someone does not mean he has to tell you all their private business. He could in fact be under a gag order to respect their privacy.

Just because Grandpa wants you "around" sometimes maybe he is really not that hot to have you around that much.

Why can't you go with? Stay in car if it's not a friendly environment for you

My opinion is this is horrible.


Don't drop children!
They're kinda fragile.
...Don't shake them either.
Kicking is generally okay as long as they wear a helmet.


Other than that I can't tell what the problem is.
Are you jealous or worried about him seeing his ex?
Seeing his ex on a Friday night?
Is the guy "dropping off his grandson" and it's taking him several hours and he comes back smelling like perfume and his hair is all messed up and his fingers smell like chicken of the sea?

Or is it you want to play with the grandson more, so you want to keep him around longer until Saturday so you can play with him Friday night?

Or something else entirely, like it would save gas, it would be more efficient logistically to drop the grandson off with the kids father rather than to its grandmother?

Or can your boyfriend not see very well at night, so driving is more of a danger?

Why exactly does it matter, what's causing you to come to a dating website to get advice about your boyfriend?

my opinion is that this arrangement is what was worked out before you came into the picture

deal with it

It sounds pretty ordinary to me. The only time you'd need to start worrying, is if the grandson didn't want to see his grandma anymore. It's not unusual to visit gran. .