You are dating someone, maybe more than just the few casual dates, and they land in the ER, do you want to be included in the information loop, called to the scene, or is it something that you would rather watch from afar? Maybe take over flowers later?

I'm a busy guy. If they asked me to bring them something I would but visiting might only last ten fifteen minutes.

Sure, why not? He might need cheering up.

I'd check up on them.

Yeah I would want to be in the loop.. If I have been dating them more than a few casual dates I would want to know..
Take flowers or what ever...

To some extent.
I want to know what's going on.

I mean there is a huge difference between someone going to the ER because of a complication due to AIDS, vs. going to the ER because they're a hypochondriac and they cut their finger making a salad and they go to the ER once a week, vs. got into a car accident and are in a coma, vs. they're checking in for some sort of long term cancer thing.



No.
Not unless they were dying, uttering their last words, and they called for me.
If they're going to the ER, why would I need to go to the scene.
What good am I going to do there.


Maybe.
Depends on how close we are.
For all I know I'm dating someone that wouldn't want me to see them in the ER and if I went they'd break up with me.


I'd rather hire a private nurse or something and get them out of the hospital.
Hospitals kill people.

Interesting responses,

The last place I want any one to see me is in the ER and I don't need anything more to deal with if I am there. I do not go to ER unless I am way past sick. But yea the drama routine would cheese it for me too.

Would be nice to get a phone call a few days later or if like a car accident flowers but causal dating calling your date to cancel would seem the only reason to tell.

I was talking with a gal pal and this guy she only dated a couple times is making it into this whole thing and I am wondering is this guy weird?

If I was the one going to the ER, I don't want someone I had a few casual dates with to be there too.

If I was the one that went on a few casual dates with the person going to the ER, they don't need to tell me they're going unless we had a date for that time and they needed to cancel it.

If there was no date to cancel, they can tell me about the ER visit the next time we talk.

Well, not too involved, if I only knew him for a few weeks. I'd still visit him, though, and try to comfort him. Going into ER is always traumatic. Even worse for the patient themselves. It's one of those things you wish was over with quickly, because it's a scary situation. I'd be trying to crack jokes with him, and other stuff. I always thought that Patients like to have a good laugh.

Hmmmmm...interesting question.

I think I am like most of the others who responded....don't really want anyone that I don't know PERSONALLY to see me in an ER situation. And if it was them in the ER, then I would suspect (with the exception of, like others have said about cancelling the date) if they wanted me there that they are drama-queens.

If after a few dates, I saw a future, I will visit the ER....c'mon, I have feelings for the patient....If after a few dates and I did not see a future...well a courtesy visit is called for...but thats it...

It seems like maybe for mature people dating is a little more significant than it is to me. I don't know how rare it is for people over fifty to date but not that rare for me.

Maybe it is because I have been single a long time and would turn to a close friend over a casual date, or even younger family because they are more likely to know what I want and or definitely do not want.

Having to deal with anything but just getting through it would be all I would want to think about. I am not to the point I feel like I need someone to make decisions for me. Probably because I have my wishes clearly stated in my 'records". And I have not had to consider where someone else was in the decision process.

Still would not matter in a casual relationship. Maybe if we were engaged. That would put a different spin on things. I don't do the living together thing.