Topic: Okay a little help here
Dragoness's photo
Mon 10/22/07 07:47 PM
I have had a couple friend requests from people who I haven't seen on the forums, I added one, but I am wondering now because I haven't received any mail from this person. So if I add as a friend and we have never even talked or mailed or seen each other on the forums then what does that mean exactly? I am such a newbie to this thing. Then if someone adds me to their favorites and again I have not talked or wrote to that person what is that? Can anybody tell me something about this? Help confused:cry:

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Mon 10/22/07 07:51 PM
I guess a good way to work it is, if they don't talk to you, delete them. If they don't e-mail you before making a friend request, don't accept it. Just do that and you should be ok. If they don't have the balls to actually e-mail you and ask you to be a friend, then maybe they aren't worthy of a friendhip.

lol am I harsh??:tongue:

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Mon 10/22/07 07:52 PM
I personally don't add anyone unless we have at least talked on the forums, and at minimum emailed a couple times. as for favorites, I use that to kinda drop a hint that I am interested....lol...and use it to keep track of ppl whom i have stumbled upon in matches and I want to ponder whether to email or not...just my way of utilizing these options

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Mon 10/22/07 07:52 PM
*friendship..... I can spell words sometimes.bigsmile

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Mon 10/22/07 07:56 PM
If they don't talk to you, how can they be friend?Block em!

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Mon 10/22/07 07:57 PM
Thank you. It is hard to figure out what subtle messages the guys are trying to send sometimes. Thanks for taking the time to answer. bigsmile

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Mon 10/22/07 07:59 PM
Dragoness...thanks for asking the question. I have some of the same problems. flowerforyou And I thank the rest of you for the answers, too! :smile:

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Mon 10/22/07 08:01 PM
I don't understand the whole friends list thing. Did you notice how many friends they do have? Sometimes I wonder if its just a game to see who can get the most friends.
I figure if they don't talk to me first then why do they even want to add me as their friend? Besides...does anyone really talk to anyone on their friends list any way???

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Mon 10/22/07 08:02 PM
Just as a side note.... Did you know that if YOU request 4 people (I think it's 4) you get a gold membership? Maybe that is why some of these morons request us and then never talk? MAYBE? Hmm, I am deleting all of my friends.drinker

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Mon 10/22/07 08:03 PM
i add them, however every now and then i go through my list and delete those that i do not talk with or that are not really friends.

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Mon 10/22/07 08:04 PM
You are a bad boy "vampy" :wink:

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Mon 10/22/07 08:04 PM
Not bad, just realbigsmile

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Mon 10/22/07 08:05 PM
This is the way I see it: if you haven't made the effort to even email me or talk to me, you aren't worthy of being on my friend's list. :)

Gams's photo
Mon 10/22/07 08:09 PM
Thanks Dragon for those Questions...I too am new and haven't the foggiest idea what I'm doing. The responses were very helpful! laugh bigsmile

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Mon 10/22/07 08:11 PM
Hey, Dragoness... To the part about favorites. Maybe I'm confused too about that... I'm like Willy_cents on that one too... it's like a bookmark. Probably not the smartest thing to do, now that I think about it, but that's how I see that. happy

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Mon 10/22/07 08:15 PM
I don't talk or email all my friends. But most of my friends on my list have or used to post and that's where I made my "friends" list.

The "gold" membership is for inviting 3 people to the site. glasses

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Mon 10/22/07 08:17 PM
I guess that is kind of a compliment? I'm bookmarked for someone...lol Oh well.. now I have deleted all the friends because I hadn't talked to them and I have no friendssad just kidding I am new here so time will give them to me, I am sure. Thanks again everyone for taking the time for a newbie. I know newbies can be annoying with all their questions and goof ups...lolbigsmile

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Mon 10/22/07 09:43 PM
actually its if you invite 3 other of your friends to join the sit you get a gold membership,dont matter if they join or not its just to get the word out about the dating site more or less,you automatically get gold for invitin 3 friends,I did it and im a gold member too now..yayy me