im sure most of you have seen my other posts about relationship problems ive been having or heard me talking about them. well, last night i finally put my backbone back in and told him everything i think and feel about everything. i told him to see if his friends would let him stay there, cuz i didnt want to see him, that im tired of his crap and i want him out. told him to come pack his things in the morning. well he came back that night (its really hard to lock someone out when they have a key) and i told him everything again to his face instead of on the phone. and he says he either wants me or nothing. i said ok. but he took most of what i said to him as a joke or played it off to the facts of the alcohol. (yes i had a few drinks last nite, but i was no where near plastered. i knew exactly what i was saying. i just needed a little "liquid courage" to be able to finally say it to him.) i even told him that everything i had said is what i had been trying to say for along time now. that im tired of him and all he puts me through. i cant trust him. i dont trust him. but yet he wont leave! what do i have to do? pack for him? steal my keys back? ask my landlord to change the locks? i dont have the rest of the money for a lawyer now, and i dont know all my rights as to getting him out of my house. does anyone know anything that might help me? am i gonna be stuck with him and his crap until i can afford to pay my lawyer? i cant get him to understand i want to go. i know i deserve better and i know there's better out there,but i cant have it if he wont listen to me and leave me alone. and now im more confused than ever.

sorry to hear you are having the problems. Is he on the lease? If not the police will help you. I had to buy a new door knob for the door in order to change the lock before. It works costs about 14 dollars. One thing I have learned you can talk till you are blue in the face but they will not believe you until you act not talk. Packing his things and telling him they are outside after you change the lock may help. If that gets ugly call the police. I hope this helps.

he couldnt pass a backround check, so he's not on the lease. ill have to ask my landlord about changing the locks.

I haven't seen your other posts. But it sounds like you are breaking up a marriage (thus the need for a lawyer). If you are renting, and he is on the lease, as well, why don't you pack up your things and leave?

Talk about a making a clean break and putting an exclamation point on all that you have told him. You take control back into your hands and you have the opportunity to start fresh in an environment that is not laced with memories of all that you did together in a house/apartment.

Just my 2 cents.

I don't know anything about your situation but there are 2 big factors here...
1) is he on the lease (since this is a rental)
2) are you married?

Not on lease? & Not married? Call a locksmith. Then, when he comes back have his things on the lawn and call the police.

If the answer to either question is yes... then, talk to your landlord and explain why you have to break your lease, then do and move.

I have to agree with the people here...but if you really want to be rid of him........move......get an un listed phone......and if thats not feasible then change the locks even though he will prolly pick it.