First date is more important than we think.

In first date ;we can "feel" if that person "qualify" to become a friend only or...a future love partner.

Is first date enough to decide the difference in such scenarios? Or; it takes more than one date?

thanks in advance

we learn from your comments

People feel things in 2 ways.
1. Naturally occurring feelings based on natural reactions to their environment and situations.
2. Feelings based on manipulating their own perceptions.


For some it is, for others it's not, for some it should be but they refuse to believe, trust, or acknowledge what they felt, for some it's not but they have convinced themselves it is.


I found that highly amusing.
At best that's groupthink.
Groupthink isn't learning.
Forum comments are opinions.
If people believe they're learning something from opinions then that is scary and sad.
At best an opinion should motivate you to prove or disprove an opinion.

Most people on forums, IME, respond to opinions in 1 of 3 ways.
1. Curiosity.
2. An attack against identity to be attacked or defended against.
3. Validation of your own opinion.
Responding to an opinion with #2 or #3 is what usually keeps people coming back to forums and comments.
#1 usually drives people away as they realize how little purpose, meaning, importance, or sustenance comments and opinions have.

some times you can just tell by speaking with them before a date but meeting them might be the second chance for some ... to see any difference in someone ... least that is ...how I decide ... and this is not always based on looks ... it is to really see if I can't get along with someone ... or not ... and they are right for me becouse mostly I do not go out of my way to look any different then I normally do ...