Can you forgive a girl who u eventually found out had an abortion for another guy buh lied it was for u....?

I can forgive. People make mistakes all the time and I am no exception. However, the woman I want to be with would never lie to me under any circumstance. Nor would another man even be in the picture. I would peacefully and sincerely wish her well and hope she finds peace and happiness one day.

Wow I would have to get my head around it first.
Not sure.
Ask me tomorrow

Dude....never hold on to something that would cause you to live a life where you always doubt others. You wanna be that old miserable guy who yells at the tv at some reality show that's dumber than a box of rocks? Lol

... hey I yell at the TV all the time.!!.ohhhhh... wait a minute

Op not sure why she would tell you something like that unless she is trying to make you think you mean a lot to her ... I am sure she probable had the abortion for her self and was told she would not get any help from the real father ... and he pushed her to do so ...
but forgive her for what ... sounds like she is just lying to try and hold on to you ... which is a weird way to do so ... who knows going to be up to u in the end if you want to go on with her... and at least she told you ... so would not come up in the future...

I wouldnt forgive her if she had an abortion and it was my child....and I damn sure wouldnt forgive her if she was banging some other guy and lied about it.

Sure.

I wouldn't date her or be in any kind of relationship with her anymore, though.

I'm assuming I'm still in one with her when I "eventually" found out.

If I wasn't in a relationship with her and "eventually" found out, I probably wouldn't care that much.

If she was the type of woman that was having an affair, got pregnant, told me she was pregnant and it was mine, and/or had an abortion and told me it was for me, then there would have been a ton of other things going on that would have made me dump her before then.
People aren't perfect little creatures except for this one tiny little nugget thing that's unrelated to anything else about them.

It's all connected to their personality. Lying, cheating, manipulating, promiscuity, self serving, fear driven choices.

That's going to come out in a lot of ways.

So, sure. I could forgive them for doing things that are pretty much in line with their personality.

At most I would be mad at myself for falling for it or ignoring things.

It's pointless to be mad at people you have the power to walk away from.