How do you cope with being alone where you dont know anyone. It gets soooooo boring listening to the crickets every night! haha. Im not the bar type person and certainly dont want to go sit there alone....suggestions?

art galleries, bookstores, movies, coffee shops, read, paint, call a friend, do some writing, go for a walk...

What do you like to do? ... do that

i dont really know anymore if that makes any sense. i was in a long term relationship which involved me going to work coming home and taking care of him, the kids (his 3) and the house...never had time for me...sort of lost me along the way.

go out and do some stuff. It may seem hard but you can make friends...

i just got out of the same kind of relationship, i just got thro my first storm while being alone, its not easy but ull meet new ppl, just takes time.

Hi Madamx,

Starting over can be difficult. Try to think back..at who you were and who you would like to be now...
What did you like to do way back when?

try those things again!
but always remember you are WHOLE as ONE, another will not complete you.

Take a class in something you have always wanted to learn, tutor at the local library??? If you are athletic, find a local hiking or cycling group...all these things will entertain your thoughts and time and get you involved with other people. Who knows what might happen from there....:)

Madam...

I hate when that happens. I was in a relationship like that, everything evolved around him and HIS feelings. In the end, it was very sad. Is there something that your interested in? I took a class at a community class, just to get out of the apartment for a couple of nights a week. I go to book stores and get a cup of tea, flip through magazines at Borders. I use to volunteer at a hospital...to feel involved. I hope you get to do things that YOU enjoy!!!

yes that makes sense madam... I was there too ... I just started trying different things because I didn't know what I even liked anymore.

Make a list and just start trying different things ... before you know it ... you'll know what you like ... you will get back in touch with you and life will be fuller and richer.

madamx, if you lived a couple of miles closer to southern california, you could come over for a visit I would fix dinner served with a little wine, then we could go for a moonlight stroll on a deserted stretch of beach. who knows we might even decide to go skinny dipping. come back to the house pop some corn and cuddle while watching a movie.OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOH YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH 3

It is just very difficult. He was what was classified as a Sociopath. It was a shock to find that all this time I was living a lie...but not only did I lose him I also lost the kids who I had been raising all this time. So the silence here is dreadful. Its the night time that gets me....

Find someone you can talk to. Get away from the house as much as you possibley can. Good luck!

If you can't get out of the house...

Come here and talk on the posts!

There is allways someone here to talk to!

Hope things get better for you!

can understand what so many of you are talking about when you say lonely, the world does not stop or back up for you. it may seem strange but this computer has helped me not to feel so lonely, the problem with it is not anyone close enough to meet or at least on a regular basis.

I am a strong woman and things will get better with time. I haven't let any grass grow under my feet. I am trying to get back out and about. Just the nights are tough with the quiet and no one here. It's not my first rodeo...haha