I love her but i know she is just using me. What should i do?

Stop wasting your time and move on. Take it from me son, she'll never change her mind about you, she made it up within the first ten minutes of meeting you.

There is someone out there right now that is waiting to receive the kind of love you're offering. Find her, give it to her, and you'll be loved the rest of your life.


I don't think I can take the "kid gloves" off any more, that's about as brutally honest as I can get.

It does not matter if it is a woman/man using you. Walk away as long as you let them they will. No ones fault but your own for letting them..

Even if we want to blame the other for getting used. It would not happen if we did not let it continue..

At first it is their fault for doing so but if we let them keep doing it then it is our fault for allowing it..

It's hard to advise you because you haven't said how she is just using you. For what? Sex? Money? What?

You love her but maybe she doesn't love you. All of a sudden she's just using you when you were happy with the way that things were before. Maybe you had unrealistic expectations. Is it that she doesn't want to take the relationship to the same sort of level that you want? Could be that the way that a woman sees it she's the one that's getting used when she marries a man. What does a woman get out of marriage? Does she need your money? Can you cook your own dinner and wash your own socks?

I thank God that your inner alarm system is working!
Sorry dear son, she does not love you, because true love is not selfish. Somewhere there is a true love waiting for you. I don't need to advice you for I beleive in your inner alarm system. Be blessed! We love you!!!

Thanks everyone

She is using me for money as well as sex. I cannot get over here. We have been together for more than 5 years. I can't do without her.

Well. If u can't without her then stay at where u r. But the best decision would be to get ur nuts in the hand and leave. I mean she will come and call but u MUST decide for urself. Get the gym membership and get ur frustration there. Best way... But prepare for increased testosterone levels as it will rise with physical activities , so punch that bag harder :)

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.awww...you pour sugar daddy... .. I don't see where the problem is... a woman that wants you to spend money on her... and she gives you lots of sex.. . Sounds kind of normal to me.. . Well ok they're usually spending lots of money on me..
And I have to give her sex in rereturn..

But like I said ....normal..

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What can you do?

If people advise you to dump her, can you actually do that?

If people advise you to stop talking to her altogether, can you do that?

If people advise you to stop giving her money, can you do that no matter the emergency?

If people advise you to stop giving her money and stop sleeping with her, can you do that?

If people advise you to go get couples therapy, is it realistic to believe she'd try?


Realistically, what are your options?
What are you, personally, capable of doing?

If you had the strength and ability to actually do anything and stick to it, would you have joined a dating site during your "I love her, can't do without her, cannot get over her, been together for 5 years" relationship? Would you be asking complete strangers to tell you what to do?

To me, forum threads like this (when they aren't trollish trying to manipulate mock outrage via an exaggerated or made up one sided story) are "really" asking "I need someone else to be my courage, tell me what to do, so I can shift responsibility onto them. Otherwise, I need an immediate social support group and replacement mommy because I'm faced with a real life situation I can't handle as an adult. Who will let me use them to sublimate my bad relationship? Who will take responsibility for me? My relationship isn't focused solely on my needs even though I paid for it to be, so I need to go find a bunch of people, strangers, who will drop everything and make it about me."

Well, you're saying that you can't go to her, so what else are you offering her and how really is that using you? You may be stupidly throwing your money away on somebody that takes you for some kind of fool or helping a woman that won't allow herself to love a man that she can't be with.

Anyway, whether you fell for a sob story or pushed the money on her, expecting something in return, take her to court unless it was a gift because otherwise she owes you nothing and it is true that people only treat you the way that you allow them to treat you.

Oh she is a keeper. Who doesn't love being used for whatever reason....unless it is sex....I can handle being used for that.

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I didn't get it. Could you be a little clearer

Wondering how much money are you talking about? just quit paying see how long it takes her to disappear problem solved

But i dont want that

then you don't need advice keep going as you wish enjoy

I'm skeptical of your claim to "really love her." It sounds more that you are more or less addicted to the sex and marginal companionship, and are so far willing to spend the money to keep the illusion of a real relationship going.

That's not love (to my thinking) any more than it's love when a guy hires a prostitute regularly.

If you ACTUALLY loved her, you would prevent her from using you for sex and money, for her own sake.