Janitor, come to momma

Being young, and a single mom struggling, it is easy to idealize a boss as a romantic interest. IT is like the crush you had on a teacher in the grad school years.

But this has not only desperate but stupid written all over it. I would bet you would be frantic if you thought your kid was considering this so why is it a good idea for you. Your kid will learn what they live. Is this the example you want to set?

Maybe your Boss is setting you up to get into your pants for however long it is convenient, but on the odd chance he is legit do you really want to insult him by living down to the lowest expectation he might have of you? You do and you can bet he will cut you off from any kind of help if he has a brain in his head in todays job climate.

And as fast as he can he is going to probably terminate you for outing the fact that he is helping you on public media. Are you really so certain that someone else in your office or community won't rat you out? Don't want your job?

I think you better be worrying more about finding another job than getting a date. Then if he is single and all that and a bag of chips you can ask him with no complications. Or consequences.

I agree with T mommy on this. I had the same thing happen to me and after the flame dies out so does the paycheck.Tread with caution.

Maybe your boss is really just considerate and a nice person.
He is a man.
2 1/2 yrs is quite long for a man to decide
and let you know if he is interested in you or not.

On dating a boss in particular:
Ethics-wise not good for you, your boss, & your other workmates.

Emotions will get in your way of being an effective and efficient employee.No matter how focus and objective you are.

Professionally -not a good career move.
Personally- a great risk after 2 1/2 yrs of having a stable job.

just sayin

In the code of business ethics , most companies strictly adhere to no relationships of any kind with your superiors or subordinates, to maintain respect & professionalism, protect every employees integrity and to create a harmonious working environment. Asking your boss out for a drink could put you in trouble or jeopardize your work. You are fortunate you have a kind , thoughtful and considerate employer......don't put malice in every goodness he does for you. If ever he really feels something for you, wait for the time that he should be the first to approach you and ask for a date. There's nothing wrong to go out with your boss as long as you know your limitations and keep it as platonic as possible unless if you are ready to lose your job. Know your boundaries and the consequences of the actions you are going to take, if you plan to pursue your interest with your boss, be ready to choose which is important , your children, your job or your prince charming?

Sure it makes it tough to date your boss..

But sorry if I'm that interested in someone I'm going to date who I please...

I dated one guy that had his own business for almost 4 years before I started working for him.... We dated for another 8 years before we split up.. I worked there for another 5 years after we broke up.. To this day he still checks on me to see if I'm okay..

Life goes on I don't regret working for him and dating him... One never knows. Just make sure if you are working for a company that has rules with employees dating that you are prepared to find another job. Or deal with the issues if the relationship goes south...

It is not easy working for someone after you dated them for 12 years. But there is nothing we can not accomplish if we put our minds to it...

So weigh all the options before you jump off into it..

With him it seems he does not want the business and trying to sell it so heck ask him out to eat or a few drinks just as friends..

Every situation is different just make sure you are able to deal with how things may turn out.

folks charolette has left the building

oooh iam changing my profile to married now,,,lol

couple weeks ago I went back home and spent afternoon visiting with my brother..catching up on kids

tells me his daughter who is a single mom and 25 years old
was dating her boss for last couple months
nice guy, divorced and around 30 with one daughter

anyhow..she let's this guy sign his name on dotted line
for a car loan for her

so she is driving around this spiffy new car and dating her boss

lo and behold..he finds out she is texting and still talking to her ex
who is the baby daddy and then finds out she spent the night with this guy
and told him she was over at a friend's house


he fired her for being late to work and went to her house and took her car all in same day

i would never mix work with relationships, it just causes too many problems, emphasised just recently when 2 colleague had been having a few too many dances, got caught out!

Wow. LOL

Quote: I'm changing my status to married now

Naughty!!! Spank u

Actually, lemme explain why i am attracted... it is actually an ego issue. I always feel, that if a married man (especially ) those with drop dead gorgeous wives have an interest towards plain, ugly me... then there must be something interesting about me. U know what i mean?

You're not plain or ugly.

Ty sweetie

Actually, I've always had an inferiority complex issue. I've never thought myself good enuf. I think i sell myself too short

perhaps instead of trying to gain the attention of married men
you should work on your self esteem issues

perhaps counseling would help

I wouldn't say i purposely try to "gain" attention from a married man, but i do get ur point, u may be quite right there. I've had my share of verbal abuse as a child that when i kept hearing, "you will never mean a thing in this world!", it made me believe it too

I,d say go for it girl..unless he is years older of course then he might just use you !

You can't let other people define your self worth, you'll always be disappointed. Most people suck, just saying.