What I hate . . . for now, people that aren't honest, and can't tell you to ****off when they don't like you, but instead say they like you and talk to you for ****ing hours.

uh...........how's that?

yeah really, how does that happen? LOL

ok, it goes something like this . . . the girl says I'm looking for something serious I'm tired of screwing around; the guy says yeah, me too, then they talk for 8 hours over the weekend. Only, after another week, he starts getting "too busy to talk" even though he was the one who started the whole Marriage talk ie. what if this, what if that . . . yada yada yada. Plus he's supposed to be soooo honest. only when he doesn't want to talk he ignores me.

by the way, cool pic, RS

Sounds like he is also confused

I mean people who can't just speak their mind, they are either confused or not even interested in the first place.

well, he's about to lose the opportunity to be with a great woman :) haha seriously, sometimes, you have to just jump in the damn lake even if it's cold to your toes.

thanks shutterbug :) we're all confused. nobody wants to get hurt but everybody wants to be happy. I'm trying to find someone to take the leap with me . . .

Thanks. Well this guy cannot commit. Simple as that. But at the same time, people need to teach themselves not to be feed into bs. I assume you are American, and we live off of BS. Take a presidential election for instance. Have an honest man vs a liar. The honest man will tell you that he is not sure if he can make live better, but he will try his best. He cannot promise no wars, or lower taxes. But the liar will promise you the world. America would be a utopia if you vote for him. Americans like guarantees, even though we all know life cannot give you any.

So whatever sounds good and seems to fit a "Media-like" Love, allows you women to feel that all your dreams are being fulfilled. Guys are victims of things like this but not usually. See, it takes a man to approach a woman naturally. So yes, they will lead you on if you let them take that initiative. But if you would like to have a better handle on things, then perhaps you should approach men and have things your way.

You play the side of the one who approaches, and analyze how you handle situations to possibly better understand any reasons why someone might have stopped talking or ignoring in the past. Beggars can't be choosers, so if you sit and wait for the man to make a move and he doesn't, especially when you are living in expectations (which is a big no no), then you are going to fall.

Don't settle. If it is a serious relationship you want, then wait for that special feeling when you meet that special person. Otherwise just accept things as friends or a learning experience and learn anything that you can from it. Experience is key.


Hope this helps on some level, I can be rather....... Random.

Random is Good. :) thanks for the advice. Actually I picked him so to speak, but I was WRONG again. haha big shock. I have a lot of good friends, and I WAS being honest - I'm tired of games and definitely don't need anymore drama, so since he can't seem to stop accusing me of acting like his ex wife, guess the magic wore off before it started.

second verse, same as the first . . .

no seriously, I'm gonna go spend some $$$ this week, hang out with my friend, and go on a little trip. I'm learning to relax a little, I just get irritated sometimes. thanks :)

thanks guys, everybody :) I think the prob resolved itself. I was gonna go see the guy this weekend but after talking to you guys and after texting back and forth and the insults, I think I have my answer.

Ok, so where are the nice guys? To the left you say?

:)

Seriously, thanks :)

Yes Darling, do that. We want life to work in our favor, however you get just enough to enjoy it. Even when you think things are bad, you discover they are a blessing later when good came out of it. As far as drama goes, I mean... In my own opinion, that is what a relationship consists of anyways. Take time to relax and have fun. Enjoy all things before you decide to settle down and make sure all of your desires, entertainment, and time with friends is complete before you decide to share your life with someone else. That's what I believe in atleast. You seem like a good woman, although I think there is more exploring for you to do before you go into something so serious.

I think you're crazy val. But I love you for being you.

Better now then later. Hopefully it does not have too much of a negative impact on you.

If a guy starts talking about marriage after only a week that sends huge red flags up for me. I'm a romantic, but the odds of a relationship that moves that fast really working out long term are not good. I'm sure there are exceptions, but those are few.

meeting 3 or 4 times a week if everything goes right and both parties feel comfortable, then talk of marriage after 6 months or so is reasonable but any sooner I think is just asking for trouble.

thanks LHB. I think you're crazy too, but I like you too :) you know the song Crazy *****? they wrote that about me haha

you're right saturnswirls; I guess I just liked it, I'm a girl. but yeah, he morphed in tardo man when his beer drinking buddies told him to back off. he's moved on to much younger and dumber bait

ok Val so you want things to go faster is what I gather so make the move and see how he reacts