Yeah, I very ocasionally get messages from people about things that I've posted in the forums. Usually it's just someone wanting to tell me that they think that I'm funny. I once got a message from a racist guy that was posting about how he wanted a woman that thought like he did and he asked me why I was posting in his thread and not the "N word" thread.

Most mail from other regular posters is a bit gossipy though and I don't really get involved in that. I have been friendly with a few of the ladies from the forums though and there was even some talk about meeting up sometime with a couple of them; although nothing came from it and I've only met local people from this site that haven't been from the forums.

Apart from that, I generally just ignore messages from people that live too far away that I don't know and don't say anything interesting. I suppose these days I just can't be bothered with these random people that latch onto you as their new friend and tell you about their dull lives and ask you about yours. I've had a few telling me about other guys that they were chatting with or dating, as if they expected me to give them advice.

And oh yeah, thanks BTW to Realcarebear when you sent me that hug when there was that unpleasantness in that thread I started a while back. I couldn't hug you back because this message came up saying that I was banned because of complaints and that if there was an "error" my acount would be reinstated.

The thing is that there are people on this forum that have nothing better to do than complain to the mods about other posters that they don't like, so as I said, I'm not really part of the inner circle here that think that it's "their forum" and I don't talk to them.

I used to reply to everyone that sent me.. a message.. but then I came to the same realization the o P came to...
really what's the point I'm never going to see this person.... although I do to chat with people on the forums on a regular basis that's a little different.... don't ask me how it just is lol

I love to learn new stuffs i dont know anything about.. I will chat with anybody unless i notice you are a fake

OH Forums users are in a league all of our own..We become more like the extended family...

If it's not a scammer I'll answer any message, I've even answered messages from non-forum users who've asked me about the mutant poodle pic I used to have, or fellow fans of the Torgo character, or ones asking for horror movie recs.

.. well if that's true that makes me the crazy uncle that runs around mumbling to himself carrying a butterfly net lol.. oh and..in nothing but my underwear..

I certainly don't mind chit-chatting with someone. However, IF I know for a fact that I am not interested at all, then I will say that upfront and if they want to continue chatting...tis ok by me.

I do not friend everyone because just like in real life, not everyone WILL be your friend. On another note....I am not a gossiper, so yea if that is all you wanna do, then move on. To ask someone if they know in general about someone because they are interested, no prob but I don't chat all over about her or him.

I must be getting old and mellow but I find it hard not to reply, even if it's just a few words to wish them well.

What gets my goat a little is when they don't take the hint.

I don't get many messages mind you so it not a biggy anyway.

I re-read what I posted and I want to kind of clarify....I chit-chat with forum users, usually not random messages.

Random messages are how we meet new peeps, but they definitely HAVE to meet my criteria before I continue chatting with them.

uh huh...just as I suspected..it really is just me

when I first stumbled on this site I actually did take the time to answer all my messages

but then there were ones who did not take the hint
there were the ones who just wanted to tell me all about their day
what they ate for lunch , when they walked the dog, went shopping and what they were defrosting for dinner..how much they paid for gas


ain't nobody got time for that
but I understand myself well enough to know this is because I was married to a high needs man who would message or call home 14 times a day and it drove me bat sheet crazy so...now I am not so patient..or uh..nice

Hi, Mell

This was a good point of view.

as long as we all know it is just you trish

Howdy, Lu

I am guessin TMom is NOT the chattin type

yes, sir', it's always a pleasure to talk to Trish.

I should probably have a warning label attached to me

Eh....I'm a snob. I don't chat.

elitist

chatted.
no shame.
no judgement.
even if i know it wouldnt work out, its always nice to make someone a friend and chat from time to time

It depends a lot what I have going on in my life as to how willing I am to chat.

Some people are fine with short notes and a nice brief little "Hi, Hope you are having a great day" is important to many people who are feeling very lonely or recovering from one thing or another we have discussed. But if they want to lock me down to some long winded exchange I just don't have time for because you don't want to make the effort to make in real life friends. .

If I clearly have little or nothing in common with the person I tend to avoid the chat. When you don't you go through the grief that usually goes with it someone who just contacted you because they want to argue an argument that can't have with the person in their life that they started it with. Unfortunately that happens a lot with young adults and the newly dumped. While I have sympathy for people who are "walking wounded" (most all of us have been in the club one time or another in our life) I don't come on Mingle to be the counselor, babysitter, or whipping post for the world.

Especially when someone emails me to get the whole how too when if they just researched threads on the topics they could hear what has been posted twelve times over.

that my dear woman is because you are a good and decent person and it would go against your nature to say anything negative


I have had brief conversations with some members of the forum