I'm onnly being curious hear on you guys opinions

I been around here for sometime and like most that have, you will see all kinds of people and hear all kinds of storys,opinions etc etc but what I did notice some of the time how so many people will come on here and exprees how the feel obout some situations. It could be a family member,friend but mostly about relationships and how they may have a proplem. So you get the questions like why do men/women do this or why do men/women do that etc etc. The one thing I did not see in alot of when some people will express themselves is there part in it. I offten wonder how some people can live with themselves knowing there not growing and if your not growing how do you enjoy life and what it might have to offer you. When I have a problem in any situation. Yes at first it might be a little problem and I might fight it in my head but when I step back and look over the whole picture. I relize it takes two to any relationship and look at myself and say ware did I go wrong. I can have a problem right now and I know if i'm wrong ill take responsibility for my actions and try to either fix it and if I can't at least try to learn from it. It's happened on here ware I made a mistake but I didn't sit back and leave it alone or blam the othere for my on atcions. SO, the nixet time anyone here has a problem and you know you had your part in it. Try to step back and give yourself some time and you just might see things a little different when you can admit to yourself I made a mistake so what can I do about it.

good point sweetie
that is what i say...take some responsibility and fix the situation, learn from it, and/or help someone else not have to go through the same thing.

One thing I do know is by taking that time and learning from it, if it comes around again. Ill know how to handle it better and hope to come out on the better end

nurjoyce i don't know if what anyone may say or do will help someone not go through it at times but we might give them a better out look on it

i am talking about making poor choices-- if we rise above we might could teach others and help them take a different route

TheShadow - AMEN

You are so right, .. most of the time, the answers to their questions are in their post or they already know but they want to hear what they want to hear and not the reality of their situation.

I cant help but wonder if its really a problem. We all have different personalites, we cant expect everyone to be like we are. If you cant accept a person for who they are, maybe theyre not the person you should be with.

Well said Shadow.

Actually not taking responsibility is becoming an epidemic in our wonderful country. It's ALL about blaming whomever. Geesh even criminals sue people they are trying to victimize.

Unbelievable. LOL

Summerz I think it is. What i'm getting at, is everything we have gone through in life has got us up to this point but if your not growing from it and blaming the other for what happen in any situation. to me that tells me you have a closed mind. There are a hell of alot of people that don't want to grow so that will not take responsibility for there own action and they will keep going through the same things over and over and going why me.

agreed

agreed

I totally accept my role in each of my relationships failures and I doubt I will be blinded by love again.There are always people around who have martyr syndrome...

Shadow very well said.....I think honestly the whole meaning of what life is about is to learn from your mistakes. If you keep repeating the same thing over and over whether its relationships, or whatever, and you don't learn from it....then whats the purpose. I think also that alot of people get stuck in what is called generational bondage. Where it could be many generations that deal with the same problem and it just keeps repeating itself, until someone in the family breaks that cycle. I just realized something in my life....that I was to old to let people suck the life outa me. So I came to the conclusion of letting go of those people and surrounding myself with people that I truly wanted in my life. Problem solved Debbie a much happier human being.

had to reply to this topic because it happened to me. I try my best to take responsiblity for what I know I did definitely wrong and what someone else might think I did wrong. It may not be a big deal to me but it may be a big deal to them and if I care about them I should acknowledge that. Plus it is just being a good person. My problem is when the other party still wants to play the blame game and not at least admit both parties did wrong. It makes me very angry unfortunately (unfortunate, because anger is crazy time consuming). I def agree with you TheShadow. I too wonder how people live with themselves and are ok with not growing. The person that can't take a step back and say at the least How could this situation be handle with more dignity then they arent really trying to grow. I notice these same people that only blame and also the ones to grab what is easiest and not what is best.

What I need to take responsibilty for: stopping the craziness before it becomes more chaos and consumes me.

I feel like i just wrote a novel lol. I think this touched home because instead of replaying in my head I was just writing down what I did wrong in a situation.

Readin over what all you have said is a reminder for me. life will always have it's rough situations. I like who I am today so I chose to look at myself of ware i'm going and what I want out of life. It feels good to be honest with myself and by doing that it helps me see thing that might help me grow