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| Topic: " Is It Providing Or Is It Asking Too Much..." | |
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to my newly friend annierooroo, good for you....gold star for you , I don't think I can finance any illegal drugs , prostitution, well, smokes, I don't have a problem with that like cigars or cigarettes. alcohol, well if its wine/ champagne, maybe, a 5th of whiskey or vodka....well I'm a born again Christian now but in my unenlightment days I would be like " Hell Yeah"....lol. but no, I see your point , you right that's a good theory of yours. Some times I do wonder if I am to independent and is that a problem? Am I supposed to play a dumb female so he can feel I need him? |
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to no1phD, well, I hope you certainly got that beautiful deck somewhat on its way to be built. Now, when you borrowed the money from your Ms. how did it make you feel? if you felt like it was no big deal, that's my point.....we should be comfortable enough to just ask when we need.. You know I build a deck and she pays me in kindness 
I hope you meant "it is her deck". 
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to lamwholam,
aahhhh.....yes lol |
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Edited by
isaac_dede
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Wed 07/29/15 08:28 AM
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to Isaac_dede, my new friend, well my new friend let me answer your questions as best as I can okay, not very frequently we both ask, the most I ask my girlfriend $100.00 but I paid her back that same week. I paid with money & intimacy...lol. the reason for me to borrow money from her I need new tires for my truck during the winter months you, know here on the eastern seaboard its snow like crazy.! honestly if I could afford to pay her back same week, then most likely I'd wait to get the tires later in the week. Now if it was an immediate need (blizzard that day, and unsafe to drive for those few extra days) then that is why I have a credit card, put it on that and pay off same week so I'm not charged interest. .but I'd still get points/miles so it is actually a win-win I personally would be hesitant to ask my girlfriend for something like that...even if I know SHE doesn't have a problem with it. .here's the reason women talk with each other....a lot. She's talking to her friends saying that she leant you money for tires, her friends may perceive you as bum or as irresponsible with finances and see her as 'bailing' you out...they will certainly tell her as much and that she can do better....even if they don't know the full situation |
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Good Day, my friends of M2, well you guys made my last forum a huge hit & I truly valued all your advice to keep my new union with my girl loving & healthy, & longevity. Thank you again my friends, okay I want to talk about a subject that affects a lot of people in marriages & relationships today, I find it to be ridiculous & you will know why I said that. Okay, How many people male or female ever been in a position where you have to borrow money from your partner. Why, I asked that well because my newly Cindy needed a few dollars for whatever reason,( I hope its on trashy underwear..lol, but no...) anyway, my dirty little mind...lol, she needed the money , now she later came to me after I insisted on letting me provide what you need as your man. Now my Cindy is a strong independent woman who I guess she felt like taking help from a man would take her independence away , but I assure her I don't take that away from you, I just want to take of my girl. Again she gave in was so happy I was there for her. I smile and assure her " If you ever need cash or anything, let me know I got you baby, Okay!". She gave me a kiss & hug and everything was great again. Now Minions, the question is do you allow your mate to give you what you need or you refuse because your pride, your independence, your stubbornness, or your own thinking like" I don't want to come across a gold digger or what not?" Ladies if you ever gave your guy money or anything I want to hear specially from you ladies. Fellas, have you been in a situation where you gave your lady money or anything , you know I got to hear from yaw too.... Bottom line, Some people have different ways how they perceive borrowing & gifts. Me , you want to give me anything I'm always be open to accept....lol. But no serious, why as people sometimes so prideful. You know that saying" the proud before the fall". If you ever needed a little assistance its okay to ask, what's the worst thing can happen that person say no, well if that person loves & care for you the word no would be rare. I do understand some people feel uncomfortable asking love ones for assistance I get that believe me but I don't know I see its a simple problem to a simple solution. Maybe you the type too independent, too head strong" No I appreciated it but I'm okay" but you hurting & in need at least for that second. Are you the types of "Baby I love you but I need a man to give me anything". Are you serious, why refuse it besides if I'm in the position to give then take it so I don't have to worry about you hurting & some other guy giving it to you , you know not having that. Also when is it a time to begin asking for things in your marriage or relationship? Do you wait 6 months , a year, or right away? So, spill the hot tea all over my.....(Blog)...lol Get your mind out the sewer...lol. Thanks Again we'll talk soon I do answer all replies okay feel free to post. I'm reading the Gone With the Wind novel right now, but I'll get back to you when I'm done with it.. 
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depends on what kind of relationship you have- if it's just boyfriend -girlfriend then be careful with you money- it's a matter of trust- and are you ok if you get ripped off?
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to mikeyspace4691,
gone with the wind.....classic book, one of my favorites are sunset boulevard..... |
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I don't know if it's typical of older men. It's just that the last two did seem to want to buy me a lot of stuff, and offer me money. I only made it clear that money isn't a want, so that the older men knew I wasn't after money. I'd take it in an emergency, but I wouldn't depend on him giving me money.
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As with most questions here, no one answer, only opinions. I have a very close lady friend, I know she has financial issues due to her ex, not paying her what is owed (even with court orders). And they way I look at it, if I can help, I will. I don't expect anything in return but knowing that her ex isn't hurting her as bad as what he thinks he is. And what I'm doing isn't as much as giving her money, which she won't accept, but as much as saving her money, buy doing things for her, instead of her having to hire it out. To me, that's what friends are for. My ex on the other hand, wanted to see how much she could get from me before moving out.
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to friendly_woman
okay so you had a older gentlemen buy you nice things.....how do you feel about that ? would that take away your independence or not? |
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Some people are more trustworthy than others. I lent the same guitar to two girlfriends. I knew that I would get it back from the first one but I just hoped that I would get it back from the other one and I didn't. It was worth quite a lot of money as well.
I thought it unlikely that I would get it back from a girl like that at the time but I still gave her it. I may have done it as a sort of test and it's certainly something that I can say about her now that the relationship is over. It's the principle of the thing. I probably wouldn't have given her it if I really expected to get it back but it wasn't a gift and I suppose that I can say that I was a nice guy to her there and that she was nasty and not an honourable person. With some people you can't even count on seeing them again, let alone getting a loan back from them. It's a bit foolish to trust them when they're like that but I don't really see a problem with it in an established relationship. |
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To Annierooroo,
let ne say this , you being independent woman is your right as well as a good trait. don't lose that for anyone. if a man can't accept you as a good woman then he's taking a huge lost. so you being a woman of stability is a beautiful thing. okay, |
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good theory to matutum63
well you right, it really depends, but in my case its small, its okay, I'm a good fella and I would help anybody I trust as long they don't lie or steal from me. |
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To Tawtstat,
wow, that's amazing response well, I'm glad to hear you have your guitar fixed & tuned. Rock On Brother! |
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This is just me but I don't even borrow money from family so why would I borrow money from a significant other?
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Right now I am in a situation where I'm struggling financially. It's my own fault. I won't get out of this situation until early October in the meantime I pray and try to stretch every dollar until then.
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Topic: " Is It Providing Or Is It Asking Too Much..."
In answer to this question and your relationship to Cindy I would say it is providing... May God Bless Your Relationship to His Honor and Glory 
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