Hi everyone. I need your help. I've been chatting with a guy from London for months, he wants us to meet since he'lll be in SA for business. Now the thing is he wants me to move to london with him. I don't know anyone in london and my entire family lives here. I like him a lot,but i'm not sure if moving to london is a gud idea.anyone help :-(

One step at a time. You haven't even met face to face yet, if I understand you. And before considering living with someone, it's logical to spend some time with them while still independent of each other.

Have patience with yourself and with him and with love. We are all more complicated than we would like to be, and so are love and life.

Don't be impulsive when it comes to decision-making.it's better if u weigh first the pros and cons before taking it to the next level.how long do u know this person?and what's his stand with ur relationship?do u really know each other that well.it would be best if u discuss this with ur family or people u trusted the most.just be careful with people u meet online.there are so many fake accounts in dating sites.I would suggest if you take it one step at a time.don't take a risk if you are not sure what you really want.if he really loves you,he will wait for you when you are ready.

Think you should meet first and see if there's still like.

Thank u all for ur comments. U right i should meet him first and spend time with him. If he really loves me he'll wait, although he told me he can't wait more than a year when i told him i still need to complete my degree here...

I would go as far as the sky for love

I would go as far as the sky for love

guess the Que falls on you then: )

How far would u go for love?

best advice i can give is get to to know them first
if ya think it will roll right then go for it
new place , new life , sounds like a dream : )

best wishes to you



i agree if its ment to be , you all can all ways keep chatting / video call / and he might be able to come see you or you him on a break ... plus if you have a chance to go meet him on a break from school that will all so give you a better idea about where you will be moving to as well

I agree with u. What worries me is what if he's not who he say he is,and what if we won't even last together...

maybe the question shouldn't be "how far will YOU go" but rather "How long should HE wait", take care of you first, if he truly loves you he'll wait...if he doesnt then do you really want to be with someone that doesn't put you first?

dear is very risky

Go with your gut feelings.
There's no rush

.....said monica lewinsky to bill clinton....

why cant he wait more than a year?

I didn't know one could get married and obtain a spouse visa overnight
and hop in a plane to London? Maybe UK immigration laws do not
apply strictly on SA nationals.

If it were a visitor's visa, I do know there's an elaborate procedure
including routine documentation his passport details, employment &
bank balance for last 3 years; i.e., as your guarantor? You may
also be required to present your return ticket (open).

In either case immigration laws could be a starting point
giving you the first level of 'protection'.

Additionally, you could always have someone from your family
get in touch with his business associates in SA. This is where
fathers come in. If he hesitates.. or some other form of referrals
& assurance to your family then well..

Reason I write is cause I've heard of Indian girls who were cooked out
by Indians in the US; and as they say, some fear is a sign of
intelligence...

6,464.73 km.....

You two have been chatting for months. I, personally, don't think that's long enough, before you move in with them. What if you end up finding there are awkward silences between you both once you get there? What if he ended up doing something horrible to you? Are you in the right mind frame to go ahead with this? What's the rush? I mean it, though. Make sure your hormones aren't running wild.

I dont think it is a gud idea to move in with him..moreover you are yet to see his face

I would go to the ends of the earth for my man...
I also would be very smart about it...
I would know him and he would know me.

I would also not be in a rush someone rushes me then I move even slower...

I agree with this posting. What's the rush, get to know him, make sure you want this. If he can't wait for you till you are ready because you are the one moving to the unknown then think maybe hes not the one. I also think a year is a good time to sort out things and organise visas, job and accommodation. Be independent incase it doesn't work out. Don't you do it all they need to show in any way what they are willing to do. Like maybe visit you.