she asked him once, and he said he would do it and he didn't and she asked him once again and he still hasn't done it. she's not asking him again she said, she left it with him.

he only asked twice, it was him who came up with lots of excuses, I think that's why she's so suspicious, because he made so many excuses up, and some of them are stupid like 'you like to use the smiley icons on that site', like she's going to care about that. she just doesn't want to wait twenty minutes for a reply.

He could be talking to other woman and that's why there's such a big gap between messages and that's why he wants to stay on that site but he should admit it. she's told him its fine if you talk to other woman has friends and he knows she does as well.

she's more concerned he's keeping his options open and that's why he wants to stay on that site. And that would explain why he didn't want to say who she was on his profile when he put her photo on.

thanks sassy and you could be right, ill pass that information on.

Your welcome. If a man really & truely wants to be be with a woman, he will move heaven & hell to do it.
Women can't really make men do anything, they don't want to * If we could there would be no war & we all would have an international lunch day once a week *

I agree.

she would never make him, she not like that, she's asked twice, but shes not asking again, and she wouldn't make him do it. she's so lovely as well.

ha ha

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he is a liar
he is talking to more than one on that site
otherwise he would have gotten her number by now

.. ..This .. and if he is only online when she is online then she can easily check if he is chatting to other women... Just go online without him knowing and see if he's online if he is well then obviously he's chatting to someone else... Sherlock lol

ya but some sites have a stealth mode

the sneaky bastard lol

Well I have mixed feeling about this actually, on one hand yes he could be playing her. I can only go by what Pancho and I did we stayed on this site for at least a month before we went off site. How long have they been talking?

I also have to chime in and state before I would go off site to another chat thing I would ask for a phone number.

The only reason I have an app is for overseas and bloody Canada that would cost me an arm and leg...

I think I would just ask him directly... I am getting the feeling you aren't comfortable going off site is there a problem?

I also have to say someone asking twice to go off site and I don't want to would lead me to distance myself..

Just my .02

She could just tell him what the problem is upfront.

It's too much stress to speculate about excuses and circumstances.

^ Exactly. Stop overthinking. If she is that paranoid, just ask him and believe him. Otherwise, this relationship is going nowhere. All the attempts to second guess the man is ridiculous and smacks of insecurity on the part of the woman. Give him the benefit of the doubt. The paranoid answers here are really ridiculous.

I agree with that and she does.

Is anyone listening to reason here? Anyone? Then dump him and move on.

she said its been about 6 to 7 weeks, and they have chatted on that site every day.

he just kept making silly excuses to stay on that site.

thank you.

6-7 weeks is not a very long time...i think she invested too much of herself too soon...IMHO...

she's actually not a paranoid person.

she is simply puzzled, why he wants to stay on that site to chat when its slow, when he doesn't speak to anyone else (so he says) or use the chat rooms.

I can understand why she thinks he could be talking to other women and/or keeping his options open, that would explain why he wants to stay on that site.

she wouldn't care if he had female friends and that's the reason he wants to stay on that site, he should just admit it and no problems.

I remember her telling me a few weeks ago, he told her he had no female friends then dropped himself in it, and he did . if that's the case he should tell her, and she would forget this situation.

but 20 minute gaps between each message must be annoying, so I can see where shes coming from.

I actually think the gaps are so large because he's talking to other people, because how can any site be that slow.

shes half way there, I think she will. she just wanted other peoples opinions who were strangers, because it makes its fair, and emotions don't get in the way of people who know her.

since they have already spoken on the phone so simple texting is the logical step, with out going to another app. so if he won't even switch to that then there is a reason and it probably won't ever go any further then it is now.

hi sexy