Let's test your hypothesis....start loving me!

I'll remain aloof as long as I can!

love is a gift that is freely given, it may be spontaneously felt or learned, but it not asked, expected nor demanded from anyone...

No matter how many times it is disected under the microscope by so called smart people it shall always remain more than the sum of its parts.

What kind of person are you?!!?!!?

You ruined a perfectly good stab at humor with reason and wise words!

Guess who's back, back again!
TM's back, tell a friend
Guess who's back, guess who's back?
Guess who's back, guess who's back?
Guess who's back, guess who's back?
Guess who's back?


We all know what this love enigma is about.

When it eludes us it doesn't exist and is a fairy tale...

When it has us in its grasp it is an all powerful, inexplicable, beautiful force that lightens our hearts and buffers us against all the ills of the world!

..i wanted to see how long you'll remain aloof...

Love makes us wise and foolish, all at once and never at all...

Your OP is the opposite of love...or loveless...

An Historians approach/viewpoint:

1. You, OP, clearly have a specific and negative agenda behind your post. The result of this, is that you have accidentally presented an additional example of what we Historians observe about such subjects:

2. People name things, and define those names, as a part of their ongoing attempts to gain understanding and control of their existence. The words we use to describe things are not created by magical, all-knowing, pre-existing super entities who created the things so labeled.

Reality exists first, and then people try to come to grips with it. When it comes to a reality as large and as all encompassing as what we refer to as "love," the resulting list of definitions of what the label word refers to, are bound to be dynamic in nature. That is, the meanings we attribute to the word, are added to as we learn or decide more about what we use it to talk about.

Your own take, is that love refers to a very narrow set of delusion-based behaviors and a nomenclature designed to hide entirely selfish and mindless or even instinctual behaviors. Why you want to believe this, is the one REAL mystery/puzzle of this thread.

Another big long post from me, Thought I'd try and reply to everything I missed the last couple of days. Although most everyone thinks I'm psycho.

Quote: Love is both: a matter of the heart and of the head.

What? Head is master of all knowledge and Heart has absolutely nothing to do with any understand of love I can discover. The heart has one key function. To pump blood round the body to provide oxygen to and take carbon dioxide away from places that need and don’t need it. Some Science geek might choose to elaborate further, they always do.

Quote: I believe that the human bean, as a social animal, has 2 basic needs. A physical need to pro-create and survive, and/or to feel the pleasure of bonking,lust, if you will.The other need, is one of a spiritual kind. To be a well balanced animal, the human being, needs to feel 'wanted, cherished' etc.

I have a psychological need to breed not physical and I have no spiritual kind. I don’t need to feel wanted, I want to feel wanted because I have waited too long being alone.

Quote: This proves, the process of love, if really true, happens between souls and never dies by itself. Memories get erased between births so can't be proved in many cases.

Yet there surely can’t be any proof that a Soul exists let alone Reincarnation. I would absolutely “LOVE” (Whatever that is) for Reincarnation to be true/real but I just don’t see how it would fundamentally work. Surely based on my expression of Love in the last sentence that Love is simply a greater emphasis on the word like as in you "more than like" or "really really like" but we call it love as it is shorter and sweeter to say and hear.

Quote: cireTOM does not have a uterus, and this point solves the issue , a bad attitude toward women, so no, sorry, love will probably continue to elude you

unless and until you clean up the 'tude

I know he doesn’t have a Uterus, you completely missed what I said which proves to me that people don’t read, don’t understand and therefore aren’t up to my level of intelligence (I don’t intend to sound big headed but its true and if being honest makes me immature then I better pretend I care. I have know bad attitude towards women, I have simple problem that would take 5 minutes to resolve but because of every women I “LIKE” I am bound to spend an eternity chasing a 5 minute resolution.

Quote: All what you counted as motives for love: belonging, security, financial status etc. can be motives for relationship but they are not motives for love.

Yes they can be motives for relationships but “love” also surely. Lets say the one your with, the one you love ends up broke or worse – in huge debt, do you still love them. They end up disabled from minor degree to major degree, do you still love them, They are sexually incapable, therefore no sex ever again, do you still love them. They have murdered your family, do you still love them. It would appear that true love would overcome all these obstacles but it doesn’t exist for it is bound by certain motives that can make or break a relationship of love.