Topic: Why relationships fail?
YahTek's photo
Fri 06/12/15 12:44 PM
It seems in this day in age atleast for man that you have to be able to.give something other than yourself in order to be with a woman. When I say give iam meaning things of the material world it cost to date its a form of prostitution if you have money she is interested if not you wont even get the time to get to know the person. Now the other form of giving or true giving in a relationship which is put at the footstool is spiritual giving such as your time, your love, respect, and dedication and commitment to that person I feel that these qualities go ignored for the lack of materialistic things an individual does not have so that individual is ignored. Relationships end for nothing more than lack of wealth or money so then it seems in todays age what holds two people in a relationship together like glue is money and as long as that is subconsciously the reason when that money runs out so will the relationship.

Goofball73's photo
Fri 06/12/15 01:02 PM
I won't deny that some relationships out there are based on financial aspects. Hell....some couples will not divorce due to simply wanting to (1) not have to pay half to the other and (2) because if the couple did divorce then both would/could suffer. But this isn't the sole reason why relationships fail. My gosh....there are so many reasons why they fail. Why not focus on how a relationship succeeds.....which is a couple fighting through those tough trying times and not quiting on each other? More positiveness and less negativity go a long way. :thumbsup:

YahTek's photo
Fri 06/12/15 01:13 PM
Correct but if all relationships were positive as in never giving up on your partner standing by there side helping them and fighting to work the relationship out if the majority of relationships were like this that would be what I would address but they are not and the part of solving a problem is finding out the root cause of it and you cannot find out the cause if you refuse to address or look at the problem heck look at the word fiance sounds very close to finance

IgorFrankensteen's photo
Fri 06/12/15 01:25 PM
One of the many things you are ignoring, OP, is how things financial often are the primary indicator of the very problematic spiritual and or emotional support concerns you so laud as being paramount.


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Fri 06/12/15 02:02 PM
Why relationships fail?

They stop fulfilling the purpose that created them and create more problems and insecurity than solutions and security.

It seems in this day in age atleast for man that you have to be able to.give something other than yourself in order to be with a woman.

Except for maybe "the summer of love" can you name a point in history when this wasn't true?
There's nothing "in this day in (and) age" about it.

Relationships end for nothing more than lack of wealth or money

Based on divorce statistics that's not true.
A lack of money or financial problems is one of the reasons given for a relationship to end, and a heavy contributor to fighting, but it's never the only reason, and more often than not it's not the primary reason.

Infidelity, dishonesty, growing apart, irreconcilable differences, incompatibility, arguments and stress, lack of love, abuse of some kind, are more of the main reasons for relationships ending than money.

When people give a reason for a relationship ending they give a bunch of reasons.
One that is common among different people is arguing over money.

The relationship didn't end "for nothing more than" money, but it was one of the problems and one of the reasons that is common among people.

when that money runs out so will the relationship.

Why is the money running out?
What other problems are going on?

Money is just the easiest to point to and scapegoat rather than put much effort into it.

YahTek's photo
Fri 06/12/15 02:52 PM
It is not wrong to have money but when money becomes the sole basis of a relationship thats when it becomes wrong. Everything that money became the basis of has destroyed the true meaning of what that particular thing is music and church for example. Ofcourse money is needed to survive and provide basic needs but when money becomes a higher value then love, respect, loyalty, dedication, comittment, then thats where the relationship will head south. Money can make someone respect you, become loyal dedicated and committed to you but if someone portays all these qualities to you only because you have money than that love is false its not true love if money is the only thing the generates you to like someone.

markc48's photo
Fri 06/12/15 05:11 PM
Edited by markc48 on Fri 06/12/15 05:14 PM
Back up don't you think that women with money want relationships. Or only just the broke ones. And the lazy ones. Cause that's not true.
But they probably don't want to date a sponge any more than you do.

ck1368's photo
Fri 06/12/15 09:43 PM
If money is the sole bases of a relationship then it is not a relationship but a business arrangement that only works if it is beneficial to both parties. A relationship is or should be based on common interests, goals, morals, values and attraction to the other person both inside and out. Marriages do fail because of finances but that is usually a result of other problems ..drinking, drugs, compulsive shopping, affairs just to name a few. So if you are starting a relationship with someone looking for materialistic things you should know what you are getting to and why they are with you and why if the money is gone so are they.

no photo
Sat 06/13/15 02:35 AM
Long distance