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Yes I have, I know more about drug abuse than I care to mention. Heroin was rife when I was growing up. Your post touches me big time Joe  ...I have seen (and been directly involved in) the devastation drug abuse and drug addiction causes..I still have a hard time handling some of the memories...The frustration and yes even guilt one feels when someone they love becomes chemically dependent is a nightmare I would not wish on my worst enemy ...Sometimes bad people only appear to be bad ...Sometimes bad people are the most delicate, sensitive people of all..
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Edited by
SassyEuro2
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Fri 06/12/15 07:37 AM
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Is there an answer of why good people hurt most?   
Everyone can get hurt. But 'good people' , tend to be far more empathic, sympathetic, trusting, devoted, loyal..... sometimes to a fault , sometimes even to the point of being self defeating. So some people interpret this as 'Good guys finish last ' * I don't. * 
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Ya know when you are a kid and you get going really high on swings and when you jump instead landing on your feet you land on your tail bone instead
you get up rubbing it and whincing in pain some people who trusted once wide open but were hurt are not so trusting next time around or learned to slow down and look for red flags |
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Is there an answer of why good people hurt most?
Everyone can get hurt. But 'good people' , tend to be far more empathic, sympathetic, trusting, devoted, loyal..... sometimes to a fault , sometimes even to the point of being self defeating. That's very true Sas...I'm wondering if sometimes good people aren't being mistaken for martyrs..Cause there is a big difference... |
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Is there an answer of why good people hurt most?
Easy. Bad people don't give a chit. |
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Is there an answer of why good people hurt most?
Hurt is hurt in anyway you want to say it. I don't believe there is anyway to judge this, sorry IMO... we may think good people are hurt more than the so called bad people. I wonder though it is because we seem to hear about their "hurt" so much faster and in greater length. Some people when they're hurt broadcasts it to from the so called rooftops. Some people when they're hurt retreat inside and suffer silently. Some people when they're hurt lash out and hurt as many others as they can to absolve the pain, or they use it as a manipulative tool to get what they from others. Some people when they're hurt deals with it, and resolve the pain, turning it to a positive in their lives. In all events the people were the same they were hurting and chose what to do with it. It is our perceptions and our rationale skills on how we judge these people and their pain. |
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Edited by
PacificStar48
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Fri 06/12/15 05:51 PM
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To me it all boils down to what lines are you willing to cross to excuse one from being called good or bad.
To me good people do not make excuses and do things that even a child knows is wrong. Abusing drugs and alcohol is a very good example of a choice people make or continue to make when they are and adult. Being violent to ward others is another. I know thousands of people at this point that have had every kind of justification for being criminals and giving up and yet regardless of the crummy life they got dealt they are responsible citizens, bread winners, family heads, and just generally pleasant and decent people. So sorry if I don't buy into some circumstance made me be bad. I also think you are doing no one any good excusing them from the consequence of their actions because maybe they had a rough time in life. Because when you do then you hold them to a lower standard and that is what makes them a second class citizen. How good or bad is a person that makes that the lot in life for another? |
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Is there an answer of why good people hurt most?
You think bad people don't? Seriously....people can be a-holes but they hurt too.....you just aren't allowed to see it. You can teach yourself to become numb to feelings like that. Anyways, to answer your question....no their isn't one simple answer. Maybe you are too gullible? Maybe you just are that kind of person who wears their heart and feelings on her sleeve. The trick is to not become disappointed so much that you lose faith. People are going to disappoint you and you cannot change that. It is a part of life. As Momma always told little Goof....there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. |
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Because they have a good heart because they are helpful and caring because they were raised perhaps by loving and kind parents and when they step out in world being a naturally good and giving person they may become involved with.someone who.recognizes these good qualities and takes advantage of them,uses them and does not treat them right So true Thanks Tmommy |
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Yes I have, I know more about drug abuse than I care to mention. Heroin was rife when I was growing up. Your post touches me big time Joe ...I have seen (and been directly involved in) the devastation drug abuse and drug addiction causes..I still have a hard time handling some of the memories...The frustration and yes even guilt one feels when someone they love becomes chemically dependent is a nightmare I would not wish on my worst enemy ...Sometimes bad people only appear to be bad ...Sometimes bad people are the most delicate, sensitive people of all..
I agree with both of your statements, Leigh. Heartfelt and so touching..sometimes these type of people needs the most love anyone can give because their soul has been constantly bruised by others and by the society it self... However despite the tragedy of what they have been through in life they remain the most compassionate people worth knowing.. They are angels with broken wings that only fly when loved...Meaningful and so touching..so much to learn from here. And most important thing we can always do is: be there, ready to help the best we can.. |
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I am so tired of the mind games.
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Edited by
ridewytepony
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Fri 06/12/15 08:39 PM
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Why do good people always get hurt the most?
Is it a competition? How do you know it's the "most?" Did you find a bunch of bad people that turned good, and good people that turned bad, and people that turned bad and good and bad and good randomly, and interview them to determine the "most?" Good people get hurt. Bad people get hurt. People get hurt. That's life. If you want to blame anything blame your brain and central nervous system. Other than that, in my experience, a lot of people that identify as "good" really aren't. They aren't bad, they're just normal people. But they are scared and somewhat weak, which motivated them to adopt the good behavior. They tell themselves their motives for doing good things are altruistic or good when it's really just a means to avoid something, like conflict, or facing reality. They can be seen to get hurt "the most" because that's what they are most fearful of, that's why they were choosing "good" behavior, to avoid that pain, as a kind of bargaining. If you aren't a good person (just a normal one), that has chosen good behavior as a means to avoid being hurt or as an entitlement to protection, then the hurt could be seen as being more intense when it happens. Your protections failed, you have no power to protect yourself, you are unsure of who you are or what you can do in order to fix the hurt, avoid it in the future, or protect yourself again. Along with the hurt it can bring a sense of despair. It also brings into doubt the entire image of being a "good" person. So you aren't just feeling the hurt, but all sorts of identity crises and mental turmoil. Thats it Mr "Cere Tom " the cerebral brain bomb. I thought you were easy on the central nervous system? We may have to change you handel to 'The Anylist'? Just come back and stimulate my stem..erm..I'm mean..$hit I'm out of ink. Why do you post and deactivate? Is that so your'mommy' dosen't catch you? Right? You're on a diet aren't you? Your not Johnny Cash, you can't have the mystique.Either you're in or you are out...or I'll tell your Mommy on you for cheating on your diet. Hi ..I'm your fan..Stan. Confucius say dont EVER heckle a comedian with a microphone. J/k K..your turn
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