We should be wise.

If he is lying to you it means he has something to hide. My advice if he can't be honest to you. Stay away from hm. You deserve better. A good relationship needs to have honesty in the foundation.
Ask yourself what kind of relationship do you want?

I don't like lying, not even the "little white lies" which may be one of the many reasons I'm still single.

Divorce

but that is a deal breaker for me lie's and cheating
i don't even do white lies
if i ask someone about something i want the truth from them
i don't want them to tell me i look good if i look like crap

hey do these jeans make my butt look big .... uhm no your butt makes your jeans look big : )~

<shrug> best wishes to you

Lying and relationships do not go together. Anything can be worked out if you want it to as long as you know the truth. I would rather know what I am facing instead of being blindsided with a lie.

As it's typed I don't know for sure what you are asking.

How do you get a partner without lying to them?
-You date more often.

How do you get your partner to stop lying to you?
- You offer consequences to their lies that they don't want, you don't let them get away with it.

How do you tell when your partner is lying to you?
- You pay attention? There is no guaranteed way.
But no one is really stupid.
If you are suspicious of something then either:
1. They are lying to you.
2. You are insecure about something and want them to be lying to you.
It's your responsibility to put in the effort in determining which it is by whatever methods you are comfortable with, willing to accept the consequences to your choices.

How do you find a partner that won't lie to you?
- You pay attention, learn how to communicate with them, and learn how they communicate in order to establish a consistent baseline of behavior.


Or we should create a utopia where no one has to be wise and there are no negative consequences to not being wise.

One "should" is as likely as the other.

Truth serum.

Not quite sure I understand your statement OP but losing any form of paranoia helps.