long distance relationships are TOUGH. even tougher when you have never actually met. thats a hard question. i have honestly met several guys that i would consider to be wonderful guys but because they are sooooo far away, it makes it that much harder. the other thing you have to think about is... are either of you willing or able to relocate? because if thats not a possibility than having a relationship (beyond a good friendship) with that person would be nearly impossible.


good luck.

well distance is the only thing that has kept this 1 gentleman & myself apart,but we are seriouly thinking about tring it out,we have become very close & are very connected in ways I can't even begin to explain..But i am totally scared out of my mind with it..its in Gods hands & we said that we are not going to forece anything just let it happen as it has so far with our friendship & trust & such

Future holds no promises for no one they say... and

well.... life is short.

What do you have to lose?

A chance of finding something so grand?

Or live a life of regret of never knowing....

Maybe this excerpt from a question someone asked on another site last Summer and my own personal response to it might serve to give another perspective on some of what you are wondering about. My responses refer more to long-distance relationships; not to someone you live local to. In other words, my response to her OP is not referring to my current Partner:


Southernhoney said: "I'm finally learning that when trying to establish a relationship with someone you met online, the sooner we meet, the better. There are dimensions that you just can't achieve online or on the phone, no matter how close you may feel you are or how well you think you know someone. In presuming all the safety rules are in tact, it got me wondering.."

Q. When you first met the last person you met from online, where did you meet?
A. I met him at his apartment, with tons of safecalls and other precautions in place.

Q. How long had you been talking beforehand?
A. 6 months of weekly phone calls, emails, and nightly IMs for hours, in addition to
interacting with each other on the forums. (We lived almost 2,000 miles apart from each
other.) ***

Q. Did you play at all?
A. Only after three days of visiting with each other most of the day and night. It was
so wonderful to have companionship of the opposite sex for both of us again. *** After
three days and nights, I was really starting to doubt my attractiveness - or - his sexual
preference.

***

Q. Did a relationship come about, either for the short or long run?
A. Yes, *** as of the first day we played and we had an exclusive relationship after that for 9 months. We lived almost 2,000 miles apart from each other and he was a man of very modest means. In that time, I visited him on two more occasions, for maybe a total of 3 weeks. He visited me once for about 7-10 days. We also lived together for almost 3 months.

Q. Did *** you to wear something in particular?
A. No. But I dressed to *** entice after the 3rd day. All in black. Black leather
garter, black sockings, black leather stiletto pumps accented with buckles, black push-up
bustier, red lipstick, heavily black-lined eyes, and my lovely dark brown hair, all shiny,
straight, and smooth. It didn't stay that way for very long. ***

Q. How did you meet your significant other?
A. I met him on another site. He posted something helpful to a comment I made
on a thread and then he instant messaged me to follow-up. He said he was very interested
in getting to know me. I don't have a current significant other since I *** ended with him and moved him to Philly last Summer. There were basic incompatabilities that you only realize when you have been with or lived with someone a while. They were insurmountable.

I would have to agree with the OP in that I feel it is best to meet sooner, rather
than later. I have learned that LDRs are very difficult to start out with and rarely work out
in the long run because it is vitually impossible to really know someone unless you have
face-to-face contact for many, many months. In addition, living together provides you
with knowledge you might never have attained without such an arrangement. Some people
are just not suited to live together.

*** = edited to keep it clean for jsh

LDR's are difficult,, with trust, understanding,, Patience and lotsa of communication they can and do work out,,, Traveling 5 hours every weekend to be with each other... making plans for our future,, blending our families,,, Wow What an incredible journey it has been,, we are now together living, breathing and enjoying life together under the same roof,,,,

When two soul blend and melt into one,, the impossible happens,,

You can say that again.

Good for you. You've got good sense.

I am,and I met him on here,he is from england and I live in the u.s.,he is planning to come over so we may get to know each other better and I am good with this,distance should not stop you if you believe in fate,I too had to expand my search because of my towns population and I am not regretting it in the least,good luck,Me

toys

Start going to Sci-fi conventions. My friend's mother met her second husband at one.

Yes, they can be okay for a while. I did it in another LDR for years. But, it got boring and old after a while. Just cannot do without the touch, companionship, and human contact. And, there is just NO COMPARISON at all between cyber/phone and the REAL THING. Just mind-blowing. You really can't compare. Its apples and oranges.

ok, book a flight to Boston.

Flirt.

And, at the risk of being in hot water today, I'll add, a very handsome one, too.

I'm flattered coming from such a beautiful woman