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Topic: Honey, Dear, Sugar......UGH
MelMaxx Joined Thu 10/28/10 Posts: 4724	Tue 05/26/15 04:33 PM
How does one get across to someone that calling them honey, dear, or sugar in a first message is a HUGE TURNOFF??!!!! I am kinda sick of seeing that first sentence...."hi sugar", "hi honey"...etc. UGH Only AFTER you have committed to me in a loving relationship do you get the privilege to call me anything like that.

TMommy Joined Fri 05/10/13 Posts: 9850	Tue 05/26/15 04:36 PM
Hello baby, sweetheart,dear,my pretty my name is smith,johnson,murphy may I inguire as to how you slept and how is your health

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Tue 05/26/15 04:36 PM
I am in Texas. We say those things all the time (even strangers). Guess it doesn't bother me a lot. It's more of the fact they obviously don't read my profile that bugs me more

rug212001 Joined Sat 05/16/15 Posts: 310	Tue 05/26/15 04:38 PM
How does one get across to someone that calling them honey, dear, or sugar in a first message is a HUGE TURNOFF??!!!! I am kinda sick of seeing that first sentence...."hi sugar", "hi honey"...etc. UGH Only AFTER you have committed to me in a loving relationship do you get the privilege to call me anything like that. While I can appreciate and mostly agree your distaste of such terms of endearment. I feel I should point out that many people (more so in the south) use such terms with everyone. Maybe Tom Jones is to blame, "Sugar, ah, honey, honey You are my candy girl And you got me wanting you"

MelMaxx Joined Thu 10/28/10 Posts: 4724	Tue 05/26/15 04:39 PM
I am in Texas. We say those things all the time (even strangers). Guess it doesn't bother me a lot. It's more of the fact they obviously don't read my profile that bugs me more Yes, the not reading of my profile is frustrating too. It's just the cutesy names have been the last 3 or so messages, so it was on my mind.

MelMaxx Joined Thu 10/28/10 Posts: 4724	Tue 05/26/15 04:41 PM
Maybe Tom Jones is to blame, "Sugar, ah, honey, honey You are my candy girl And you got me wanting you" Now THAT would be quite ok with me....it's FUNNY

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Tue 05/26/15 04:41 PM
I am in Texas. We say those things all the time (even strangers). Guess it doesn't bother me a lot. It's more of the fact they obviously don't read my profile that bugs me more Yes, the not reading of my profile is frustrating too. It's just the cutesy names have been the last 3 or so messages, so it was on my mind. Yeah I think it depends on where you are. I grew up with that stuff so it's normal to me. I say it myself Just part of our culture I guess. I noticed India does it a lot as well. Guess it's in their culture. Dunno I have never been there

MelMaxx Joined Thu 10/28/10 Posts: 4724	Tue 05/26/15 04:46 PM
I am in Texas. We say those things all the time (even strangers). Guess it doesn't bother me a lot. It's more of the fact they obviously don't read my profile that bugs me more Yes, the not reading of my profile is frustrating too. It's just the cutesy names have been the last 3 or so messages, so it was on my mind. Yeah I think it depends on where you are. I grew up with that stuff so it's normal to me. I say it myself Just part of our culture I guess. I noticed India does it a lot as well. Guess it's in their culture. Dunno I have never been there I DO understand the southern thang. I guess it just doesn't come across as well in type as it would in person, hearing that southern drawl along with it. However, I guess the true part that upsets me is when I then correct them and say "please call me Mel, not sugar" they most times just don't respond. So, I then feel it was maybe not simply a geographical-style of talking.

2OLD2MESSAROUND Joined Mon 04/13/15 Posts: 1661	Tue 05/26/15 04:47 PM
YellowRose stated >>> I am in Texas. We say those things all the time (even strangers). Guess it doesn't bother me a lot. It's more of the fact they obviously don't read my profile that bugs me more DITTO...on another site {last fall} I actually changed my nick name to 'NOHARLEYDUDES' and I still got loads of 'HARLEY DUDES' offering me their spare HARLEY And then they got highly offended when not once - No, not the 2nd time but by the 3rd time I had to REALLY EXPLAIN; WTF I meant...I have ZERO interest in becoming 'YO HARLEY MOMMA' So I do not put in my profile: I like motorcycles but can't ride anymore!

simpltim Joined Mon 09/09/13 Posts: 127	Tue 05/26/15 04:50 PM
how bout sunshine... works everytime:) ....almost

TMommy Joined Fri 05/10/13 Posts: 9850	Tue 05/26/15 04:52 PM
Ooo sunshine might actually work..especially a good morning sunshine message

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Tue 05/26/15 04:52 PM
I am in Texas. We say those things all the time (even strangers). Guess it doesn't bother me a lot. It's more of the fact they obviously don't read my profile that bugs me more Yes, the not reading of my profile is frustrating too. It's just the cutesy names have been the last 3 or so messages, so it was on my mind. Yeah I think it depends on where you are. I grew up with that stuff so it's normal to me. I say it myself Just part of our culture I guess. I noticed India does it a lot as well. Guess it's in their culture. Dunno I have never been there I DO understand the southern thang. I guess it just doesn't come across as well in type as it would in person, hearing that southern drawl along with it. However, I guess the true part that upsets me is when I then correct them and say "please call me Mel, not sugar" they most times just don't respond. So, I then feel it was maybe not simply a geographical-style of talking. If someone can't respect that it makes you uncomfortable...then it's disrespectful. Especially on a site like this. Not everyone is used to it and if it bothers them, it should be respected. But coming to Texas...people say it. If someone doesn't like it...oh well lol

rug212001 Joined Sat 05/16/15 Posts: 310	Tue 05/26/15 04:57 PM
Ooo sunshine might actually work..especially a good morning sunshine message I much prefer the Steve Holy approach, "Good morning, beautiful, how was your night? Mine was wonderful with you by my side And when I open my eyes to see your sweet face It's a good morning, beautiful day" Then again, that's not a first message type thing either.

Datwasntme Joined Fri 07/25/14 Posts: 9701	Tue 05/26/15 04:58 PM Edited by Datwasntme on Tue 05/26/15 04:59 PM
I am in Texas. We say those things all the time (even strangers). Guess it doesn't bother me a lot. It's more of the fact they obviously don't read my profile that bugs me more same in Florida : ) would you rather they say hi shithead ?

TMommy Joined Fri 05/10/13 Posts: 9850	Tue 05/26/15 04:58 PM
Good song

TMommy Joined Fri 05/10/13 Posts: 9850	Tue 05/26/15 05:00 PM
Hmmmm that hi shithead might actually work with me..especially if I was behaving like one

Rock Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 21258	Tue 05/26/15 05:00 PM
I am in Texas. We say those things all the time (even strangers). Guess it doesn't bother me a lot. It's more of the fact they obviously don't read my profile that bugs me more Hey, Darlin' , when are we gonna go yuppie tipping?

LoveMeOrElse Joined Sat 01/17/15 Posts: 1	Tue 05/26/15 05:00 PM
How does one get across to someone that calling them honey, dear, or sugar in a first message is a HUGE TURNOFF??!!!! I am kinda sick of seeing that first sentence...."hi sugar", "hi honey"...etc. UGH Only AFTER you have committed to me in a loving relationship do you get the privilege to call me anything like that. it always bugs me.... .-.

rug212001 Joined Sat 05/16/15 Posts: 310	Tue 05/26/15 05:01 PM
I am in Texas. We say those things all the time (even strangers). Guess it doesn't bother me a lot. It's more of the fact they obviously don't read my profile that bugs me more same in Florida : ) would you rather they say hi shithead ? That's how my brothers say hi to me.

yellowrose10 Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 52804	Tue 05/26/15 05:02 PM Edited by yellowrose10 on Tue 05/26/15 05:03 PM
I am in Texas. We say those things all the time (even strangers). Guess it doesn't bother me a lot. It's more of the fact they obviously don't read my profile that bugs me more Hey, Darlin' , when are we gonna go yuppie tipping? Hahaha sounds fun, sugar!