Every "match" for me, and I mean every single one of them, say's that. Is there a reason for this i'm missing?

the fine folks at mingle go through very profile to find the perfect match(es) for you. each person is contacted and asked 150 personalized questions before they are presented to you as a match. after the drug screen and background check of course. it takes well over three seconds to do all of this for you. wait, my bad, you are on mingle2, the free one. well that's why, you have gotten exactly what you paid for. good day to you sir *

seriously, join the community forums. plenty of friendly folks that have been posting within the last thirty days. godspeed, bulldog

*note: this part of the post is/was/will always be total bs. i personally post bs replies from time to time (more often than not) because i have no life and nothing better to do

I personally never pay attention to the matches...
If you are searching profile read and contact.
Make sure the intro email is different and actually talks about
what is in profile...

I personally prefer to post in forums and get to know someone

I do just what you said, and I've started doing the forums, but so far on a small scale. Thanks for the advise

I believe that all of the profiles that indicate that the member (or ex-member) hasn't been on this site for 'a month' can actually mean that they haven't been available to contact for years (or whenever this site was first started). The wording is so ambiguous that those really hoping to make contact with someone who they may just hope or think 'just took a month off', likely have little hope of ever being able to contact that person of interest.

I'm sure that a very small % of people did take a month or more hiatus from this site, but I'd also bet that most are done here.

I don't think that most here would place bets otherwise, but it is sad that their hopes and ability to 'move on' have been placed on hold due to only 'not knowing'.

It would seem both more responsible and useful for every member if this site would publish the last date that the member was actually online, rather than the ambiguous wording now being published. I have been made aware that other sites do this and IMHO......that would serve to be much more beneficial to members here rather than the current practice.

The current method does lend itself to advertise a much larger active membership in regards to the profiles we view, therefore giving us the impression that we have a boat load of more choices, but what's the use if the last time someone that we might be interested in was online in 2010.....or worse.

Just a thought.......

Well I was one of those small percentages... I did leave for a while a lot that do usually deactivates...

I did have one of my matches when I first came back I peeked at just contact me today.. Stating that they aren't on as much.. I had to tell him well gee I haven't been single for over 2 months now.. rofl...

Thanks for the response.... .

First of all......good for you..... .

I agree that some obviously do 'come back', but I would guess that many, many more don't. Aside from that......if single, would not the publishing of the dates regarding a members 'last online date' be a more useful approach for our active members rather than a timeframe of 30 days ago to 10 years ago....?

I will give you that.. How hard is it when surfing profiles which I have to be honest I don't do..Never have... To look at how long ago they were on line. Then move to the next one..
This is one of the better sites I have been here for years and love the forums and the interactions I have found here.

I mean you live close enough to Seattle there should be many active people on here

I also have enjoyed the interactions in the short time that I have been here.....very much so. I'm sure that many do or they wouldn't be here.....makes sense. Some here are obviously thinking that they're offering us a service, while others just want to be 'serviced'. The majority, I believe however, are here to find a like minded companion in hopes of enhancing both of their lives going forward in life......just like you did recently. Back to the subject as my like or dislike for this site, nor yours, was ever in question nor ever brought up.

Those 'missing in action' for a month or more. You don't practice 'surfing profiles'.....'never have'. Since we're talking about what the majority of members likely do or even a a handful do as their preferences should count as well, seeing when another member was online last is obviously more beneficial for each active member than the status quo. I don't need to reiterate why and I think that you're astute enough to know that there are more viable reasons that I could make to more easily justify such a change, than not.

So, what would be the downside of such a change...? If nothing, as is clearly evident, it would be a positive and useful change that I'd think that you'd get 110% behind since you obviously enjoy this site a great deal and likely want other members, like yourself, to finally find that special someone.....

Seattle is only 1 1/2 hours away as is Vancouver BC to the north and as you know from reading my profile these last few minutes (as I did then, yours), travel/schedules/etc. are not inconveinences for me.....thankfully. My mom lives there as well, so I find myself down south quite often. The issue isn't and hasn't been how many members are actually active and how large a city close by can enhance one's opportunities. The discussion is and has been that members/profiles either no longer active or not active within the last month don't enhance or positively impact members opportunities who are seeking out others members who are CURRENTLY AVAILABLE to message/chat with, exchange #'s and/or eventually date......which is the whole idea here and why any and all dating sites exist in the first place.

If a member seeks out companionship here where there are a huge % of profiles that are either totally useless or 'out of date', why would someone/anyone want to sort through all of those just to finally get to real, active and single members wishing for the same results...?

A bit like going to a cemetary and being told that 50% of the people buried there are alive. Find 'em........

Well if you feel this strongly I would suggest that you put it down in the help forums...
When I have looked at profiles here and there that come up on top of my profile it tells me in about 3 seconds if they have been on lately or not...

We aren't going to agree on this topic
Have a great day

So you're taking back, "I will give you that"....? Not fair..... ..... nor can I understand the sudden change. No matter......

Agreeing to disagree is fine as it is not a personal matter between you and I, at least from my standpoint. It is a bit disconcerting that you had agreed with my premise earlier and now, for some reason....you don't.

Since you don't think that a simple change in the 'last online' format would benefit all members who look at that specific part of each profile (probably most all, but yourself), I'm totally stumped as to why you wouldn't agree with it being much more helpful to members than the status quo which leaves everyone to wonder and speculate as to if the member died, moved on or was perhaps simply murdered back in '08 and therefore, "not online in 30 days".

I get the 'ole dogs, new tricks' routine we can all fall into, but when the common sense benefits of such a change are so obvious, why such opposition from someone so attached to this site that most of her day is spent here...? You would seem much too dedicated to this site not to see the very clear and obvious benefit to all members seeking what you have reminded us of finding yourself, recently.

Again congratulations to you and have a great day, as well.

Good suggestion - I submitted a quick proposal in regards to this issue in the 'Help' section.

Thanks......

I am not disagreeing with your suggestion...
What my position is this...I personally don't use the function enough to care either way...

The few times I have used the function of looking at a profile it tells me with in about 3 seconds if they have been online recently or not.

So to me, when I was single and if you look at my join date I have been here many years. Yes I did leave for a couple of years and I choose to deactivate as a personal choice..{ I wasn't dating material and I wasn't fit for forum posting either}... So it isn't that big of a deal... If they hadn't been online for 30 days I passed them by..

The other thing I did was change what I was looking for did an advanced search using your interests with in a 100 mile radius of your profile and came up with pages and pages of women... Ages 35-60.. Not sure what your age preference would be.several were online as I looked.

Because I gave you a point doesn't mean I give the debate. I conceded on one point that honestly didn't matter that much to me. When I was looking and I lived in Sitka I dated more from Seattle and surrounding area since it was just as cheap or cheaper to fly to Seattle as to Anchorage...More things to do also..

P.S glad you did that if you feel that strongly

I did, but got a message that it was deleted as it 'wasn't open forum time for such queries'.....

So, mine, as yours have been all along....good intentions don't always work out.

Good luck to you and yours....

This is probably a stupid question, but how do they determine how long it has been since you have been on? I am one of those who comes and goes. I have profiles on several other sites. I often forget this one and only remember when I receive a reminder. Like someone messaged me.
Do you have to sign on to your profile, or does it show active if you just came to forums?
Thanks.

I think you have to.sign in. I don't think it would show if you just looked at forums but did not respond
.but who knows maybe I am wrong