I've had A couple of friends-with-benefits and it's never as you except it to be & that's okay. It's fun.
Is there anyone else who likes the feeling of this ??

HiLesbehonesthere,
I'm a much older guy than your young years but I was wondering what expectations you have for a FWB type relationship.
I can't really see how I could enter into a regular intimate relationship with someone without having some degree of attraction from the outset. If there is a level of attraction the bonding that happens because of the repeated sexual act is bound to lead to higher levels of emotion above just simple attraction and that is going to be a difficult tightrope to walk.
I don't think I could walk that tightrope. I can see how short pure lust and sex relationships could work, using each other to work out your sexual needs and desires and moving on but to go on for longer and form a workable relationship where one party doesn't feel emotionally attached is I think nigh on impossible.
What is your view?

Willy.

If my FWB tries to bake me a cake, then I know it's time to exit....stage right.

It is my belief that FWB should have all the earmarks of a love affair.In today's society there are people who want the benefits of a sexual relationship with out the responsibility of a love relationship. Although the FWB answers a lot of physical needs it also creates a security in knowing that the other person is there when you need your friend. However it is not uncommon for an FWB to become a very serious love because repeated physical contact breeds emotion either positive or negative. Therefore if you are going to participate in an FWB relationship So if you want an FWB do it with someone you would be willing to share your life with because there is an above average chance that it will happen.

what about a pie?

I really don't see the point of that arrangement. If I'm going to share my most intimate it's going to be with someone who cares, not someone who's usually just passing through

I concur.

The only "friend with benefits" situation I'm interested in involves Blue Cross/Blue Shield!

Ya I don't really like people or want friends sooooo this might not work for me

^^^ this!

Well, personally, I never wanted to take the chance of getting smacked in the face for asking a woman to be my FWB.. so I never have

FWB has never lived up to any definition I would have for Friend or a Benefit.

For one thing I don't boink my friends for my own comfort and try to pass it off as any kind of benefit for them. It is selfish and self centered. They may have some kind of reciprocity but it certainly is no compliment to tell someone if you had an alternative you would use it.

I never considered anyone who just wanted to boink me as a compliment. Granted I could do the deed and probably make it enjoyable but where is it my job to just give someone else something so precious as intimacy with me if they say all it is, is a temporary fix, for the moment. Sorry I don't just do sex as a bodily function. I value myself, and the act, more than that.

I also value my health more than that. If someone makes it clear they are into temporary partners what is there that makes me think that they use safe sex or would be around if any kind of complication came up. I don't need so cheap "gift" that turns to misery that I can't get rid of. I realize a lot of people think there is this ridiculous notion that there is "Safe Sex" and as a hospice caregiver I assure there is not. At least stack the odds in your favor and be in a stable enough relationship that you are more likely to go through whatever with the partner not alone. And I assure you if you get something your partner chances go up in smoke.

Last but not least just because the FWB thing is ok at the moment it is no guarantee it is going to be around when you want to collect in the future. If you are nothing but a FWB it is pretty much guaranteed that when what they want comes along you are going to be kicked to the curb and forgotten no matter how much you might wish otherwise.

P.S. I have yet to see any FWB relationship not get out of balance and one or the other party feel used and cheated and a emotional, often financial wreck.

Not a lot sadder than finding out while you are wasting your time on FWB you got old or passed by for the real deal.

I have one on the back-burner, waiting for me in the background. Just incase I feel like I want a bit of him. He's a ladies man, so it never shocks me. He flirted with me a few times, but years ago. The hints were always there. We'll see.

I personally am not wired for FWB relationships.. I have to have more vested to have sex with someone.

I have a couple of friends that is all they are into.. One has a guy she has been FWB with for about 5 years now. When it strikes them they will hang out and actually do things together. When one decides to date someone the other will back off. If and when it doesn't work out they just kind of drift back together.. I have asked why not you two together as in relationship..They both are nope not me I would kill the other if I had to be around with all the relationship trappings.. imo this is a relationship..


Another one they just hook up for sex nothing more..

Again I need more than that to drop my jeans

It works for some, but not always. Feelings start getting developed it's time to end it, or explore the possibility of a relationship between the two. I can say I had done this a couple of times, and one turned into a relationship. The other just turned into kindling for a fire.

It's fun until it gets tiresome for the other.
I only have one in mind but strictly for fun. ;)

I'd have to require that in writing.

Idk..."friends with benefits" connotes just using each other just for the sake of fulfilling a particular need....Doesn't seem friendship-worthy...more user-friendly...