So I met this chick online. It started out as just a fwb thing, and I developed feelings for her. After a few months of dating and hangin out I confessed my love for her.

Long story short, she turned out to be a pathological liar and con artist who took me for everything I had. BUT...I was being passive aggressive and just telling her "Here...take my money...take my things...is this want you want?". I didn't expect her to ACTUALLY do it. Oh and did I mention she was a pill junkie and used me to get her dope?

Anyway...after all the lies, and deceitfulness, I just couldnt take it anymore and had to break it off.

And...like an idiot, I'm still seeing her "as friends".

The thing is she keeps making me feel bad and guilty about how I broke her heart and ruined her life. I keep telling her why I broke it off, and how she hurt me too. I forgave her and let it go. She apologized and said she was trying to get clean, and wants to try again. But, everytime were together she always has to break down in tears and make me feel like a piece of dirt for "what I did to her"...never once mentioning what she did to ME.

What should I do about this?

ok u asked.well u answered yourself really.u need to ditch this user.

Is she wanting to get clean why is she a junky ?
Has she told you why she does it ? Maybe she went to you so you could help her off of it !
Also was she younger cose maybe she wanted an older man to put her on right track and help her get sorted maybe she thought you could do that for her !

read it all rob.shes taken him for a right fool.

I did read it all some people that get hurt as thinking a person can help them want to hurt them because they did not try hard enough to help them , they think , it seems !its about finding out as much as a person can to help the person who is partner to see what there need is pathological lier so what was lies about ? Was they actually lies or just hard to understand !

shes used him and is manipulating him with her act now sayin he hurt her.typical pscyopath play the victim trait to keep him hooked.cut free man bin her shes trash.

If she want to talk , I could be a friend to her aint got nearly anythink that can be taken anyway lol . and interested in why people act some ways ! :) . Not like I have a female human waiting for me to come to her so why not ! Been waiting for so long for a female to come find me but that ain't happened yet or would not be messaging on this site , so why not if message me will give email address if want !

Rob. I think thats what she was looking for in me. And I really did try to help her off the junk, but...deep down, she wasnt ready to quit. Or we would still be together. I forgave the lies and manipulation, because that's just how I am. But I just couldnt stand by and watch her kill herself. I admit, I have my demons too, but I sacrificed them for her, hoping she would do the same.

Llyn. You are absolutely right. Everything tells me I should just forget about her, but the love still lingers, and I feel sorry for her. I'm not getting trapped in her web again though. Strictly friends. I still would like to try and get her some help, but only if she's willing.

Trust me dude. You don't wanna go there. And she would kill me if she found out I was airing our dirty laundry out online haha

That's cool what you said !

ok well if u support her who is supporting u?who will be there for u when she drags u down and makes u depressed?i hope u find the strength to cut contact and find a nice girl.emotional blackmail doesn't constitute love.

From my observation here.....most people are either junkies, psychopaths & just plain f**kd up....makes me wonder sometimes what im doing here...oh Yes the forums

Take it you are talking about world in general lol and talking amongst friend groups as well as site !

I will take heed to this sound advice. Trust me. She broke my spirit so bad, there's nothing left to break. I see through her now. And in time. Maybe a nice girl will come my way.

Haha. Yea, it's been a while for me. I used to come round here every day years ago. Such nice people. I guess it's changed some.

Aint it the person them selves that should be strong enough to look after self and partner if have to and others to if required not needing other people to support back but excepting it if required to but if know self can keep it together and work through it even if to others it don't look like you are cose only person that it matters if a person can cope is them selves and ask for help if really required!
But also not excepting them free loaders that think as it seems that can get away with anythink and someone will put right aint interested in putting them right anymore !

I think I get what you're trying to say Rob. Especially with addiction. It has to come from within to truly work. That's where she went wrong. She told me she would stop because she didnt wanna lose me. I told her that isnt good enough. The ONLY way you're going to stop is when YOU want to for YOURSELF. ONLY WAY. I know. I've been there.

So have I just gave up one day as had enough , but still even years later have the feeling of wanting it when smell it on others but not going back again to it I think of it as like a female I liked , we remained friend but no benefits:) .

Thing is some people only way they give up is for someone else as classing that person as fresh start in there life making them self's better for them as somethink underlying in self that makes them feel that way !!!! Giving them selves a kick in the but in other words !
But its about doing it for some people with out them ever knowing so theses no separating problems and feeling of if the person goes will start again or taking advantage of them cose a person helped them , them thinking they o , so staying aloof from some people is best !
Talk to people or saying somethink to self don't stop them its somethink people aint seemed to master in selves that helps not them saying it to selves !
Go away please !

Well thanks for letting me message and not messaging go away :) .

Never Waste your feelings on people who don't value them.