So, I had a great girl, but not the so best relationship as far a open communication. I will admit I did screw things up and said some horrible words to her. Now be have broke up for two weeks and I truly miss her. Should I give her time or let it go and move on????

Honestly depends what you said..How long you were in this "not so best relationship"... if there is vested interest in each other..

If I have been dating casually and I get unloaded on by some guy that isn't really into me. Then most likely when he comes groveling to apologize I am going to wish him well and be done...

Do you Miss her because you were getting great sex.. How and why do you miss her.. Those are some good questions to ask yourself...

All good points; I'd also ask, 'What do you think she's thinking? Was the 'not so great' a mutual thing? Apart or not, it might not be the worst thing you could do to touch bases and see if you could ease the hurt a bit.

And, just 'cuz I'm a guy and inherently evil, there's always the make-up sex to consider.

Seriously, though. If you can fix it, at all, you'll both sleep easier.

G'luck.

do you miss her because absence makes the heart grow fonder?
do you miss the sweet things she did for you?
just miss being in a relationship? miss being part of a couple?


what makes you think that the issues you had when you left are not still going to occur again?

are you willing to change those?

do not confuse the awkward feeling of trying to be back on your own
and maybe guilt over some of the things you said
with real love



if you love her
you would know it
there would be no questioning it on here

you would not have let two weeks go by without telling her what a horse's azz you were and how sorry you are

2 weeks and your on a dating site that you joined a month ago.....hmmmmm

Call her in the morning and give her until close of business Wednesday to forgive you and resume your relationship. Inform her that you will begin dating two, yes two, hot chicks, as of 5:01pm if she has not responded.

WHEN that doesn't work, man up, apologize for your harsh words, and tell her your thoughts on resuming your relationship. If she doesn't accept your apology, or isn't interested in continuing a relationship with you, repeat your apology and say good bye.

Although, I think your question would be better posed to the woman you offended. She would be more apt to give you a definitive answer as how to proceed.

Good luck!

Busted,,

forgive and forget. make a new start.

Thank you Mother Love!

Get it? Mother Love? The show Forgive or Forget?

Anyone? Anyone? Anyone?

''Screwed up badly''


A lot of women tend to make a man feel screwed up .

All great points, and I have said all the things, what an *** I have been, tried to apologize, yet she still holds on to the words I said.

well then you are going to have to give her time

Thank you for the advice, how long do you think I should give her or wait on her?

as long as it takes
I cant say I am not your girl
dont know what you did

she may forgive you and want to try again or she may not hon

Thank you dear......your awesome. I told her the truth about herself and her attitude and how hard I work for us and she does not help me just around the house, I ha told her she does not have to work, just take care the house and me, I paid for everything, put her on my bank account, bought her a car. But not once did I get a thank you.

If she wants to hang on to those words let her have them. She most likely will never take you back and if she does those words will be hanging over your head and used as a bargaining chip for whatever she wants. She probably started the whole thing pushing you to your limit until you gave her a 'get out of jail free card'. This way whatever you said to her was her 'reason' for leaving you and she can lie herself out of guilt to herself her friends whoever.
5#!+ happens. This has happened to me quite a few times but all I have ever done was yell or walk away. Look at it this way, she could have "gotten bruised" and you could be locked up and had never laid a finger on her. Things can almost always be worse, sometimes they can't be better. Everyones emotions get the best of them at times and as much as we'd like it to go backwards time just ignores us.
If you really loved her the way you say then she is the one loosing out, not you.

alright... Go ahead ladies, tear me a new one.

WOW......thank you, I truly appreciate that ......I needed that, you nailed it right on!!!!! I did more for her than anyone has or ever will do for her! THANK YOU SO MUCH!!

A lot of women won't thank you if you try to treat them like a housewhore.

A lot of women experience guys constantly trying to buy their affections in some way.
They realize that all that crap comes with strings and are really just waiting for the shoe to drop when the guy starts tugging at them.
They aren't going to thank you for gifts that put them in gilded cages with the illusion of freedom put before their eyes if they just sing or dance a little bit.


A lot of women/people will really resent you telling them who they are.
And there can be a huuuuuuge difference between what you believe is the truth about themselves, what they believe is the truth about themselves, and the actual truth about themselves.


Why wouldn't she? You yourself say they were horrible.
If you didn't mean them, then you are either a liar, or you actively tried to hurt her by using them.
If you did mean them, then why wouldn't she hold on to them? They're meaningful and represent how you truly feel.


So did you feel entitled to something from her?
Did you do this in order to get something from her? Or simply because this is the only way you know how to express how you feel?


Use this as an opportunity to see if you can work on your communication skills with her and talk to her about it.
If she won't talk to you then find someone who will.

Thanks, there is a lot to think about here! And your right, I need better skills at communication.