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I have question for anyone who say they won't give up nothing for their lover unless they want too,lets all remember there's two sides,what if they have given up alot for you,or there is something you want them to really give up,keep in mind you love them ,would you do it then? No. Just that. If they choose to give something up - even if that's what I'd most like to see - I want'em to do so without being forced into it. Would I set an example? Sure. Put more salad on a plate instead of carbs? I could see me doin' that. Demand 'Change! I said so!' Not friggin' likely, even if it was the very BEST thing for them. You can lead a horse to water, you can't make it drink. Change is an internal adjustment if it's to be positive. Love doesn't mean you always get it right. It means you try. Together. ' |
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I wouldn't give up anything now.
I don't plan on falling in love again anyway. It's overrated.  
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Edited by
Amelinng
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I would hope that the person would want to be a better man for me. He would do anything to please me, as I would to please him. Giving up vices and addictions and bad habits to please your mate would also make you a healthier and better person. You are improving on each other. Giving up something which gives you pleasure, like a hobby or toy collection, but it displeases your spouse, is self-sabotage. The person is selfish and doesn't love you for making you do that. I would never make my man give up something which made him happy, as long as it wasn't destructive, just to please me. So it all depends. This..... 
I think Mai said it...... I would not want someone to give up something they love if it is 'not destructive'....that is so so true! If you loved reading books, I would never ask you to give that up..... but if you love to drink to the point of addiction, I would encourage you to reduce or give up.....maybe even be forceful about it. And to have someone love you enough to want to please you and give up something they love....... hmmmmm!! |
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I have question for anyone who say they won't give up nothing for their lover unless they want too,lets all remember there's two sides,what if they have given up alot for you,or there is something you want them to really give up,keep in mind you love them ,would you do it then? If i truly loved them, they wouldn't have given up anything for me, because i wouldn't ask them too. if it ain't fair to the 'other' party then maybe we aren't supposed to be with that 'other party' If a person likes to go out and drink friday/saturday and veg on sunday, but i like to go play volleyball on the beach every fri/sat is it fair to that other person to ask them to give up a night with their friends and join me? or is fair to you to give up playing and join them? or would it be fairer to both of you to admit that maybe you're not right for each other, and she finds the guy that likes to go out every weekend, and i find the girl interested in playing volleyball on the weekends? I personally choose the latter |
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I have question for anyone who say they won't give up nothing for their lover unless they want too,lets all remember there's two sides,what if they have given up alot for you,or there is something you want them to really give up,keep in mind you love them ,would you do it then? If i truly loved them, they wouldn't have given up anything for me, because i wouldn't ask them too. I would never say never because I did give up a lot, even relocated from my family home to another state when I got married. And giving up smoking and drinking was something I did too.....I never did pick up smoking again, but I like drinking with my family and some buddies whenever we get together. And if I should ever meet someone to even feel I could love, I would be more cautious now than I was before in giving up everything, or somethings that I am comfortable or gotten used to. I doubt if I would relocate permanently, more like having 2 homes would be great, alternate, as my kids are still staying with me, and making the best of both worlds. I would look more into both getting to keep what they love and compromising on other aspects.........if you love someone enough, you would want to reach an agreement on anything just to make it work to be together. Well said, and that is a combination of what we all are saying to some degree. My own personal experience of facing off with challenges to make the relationship work has been, there are adjustments you have to make to each environment. Work, play or home life. The changes we make are by our own choice ultimately. Whether asked or not asked, for me or the other, or both. Tolerance and compromise work hand in hand. |
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I wouldn't give up anything now. I don't plan on falling in love again anyway. It's overrated.
lol.............yadda yadda |
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Edited by
Awatersign
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Sun 04/26/15 07:59 PM
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I have question for anyone who say they won't give up nothing for their lover unless they want too,lets all remember there's two sides,what if they have given up alot for you,or there is something you want them to really give up,keep in mind you love them ,would you do it then? No. Just that. If they choose to give something up - even if that's what I'd most like to see - I want'em to do so without being forced into it. Would I set an example? Sure. Put more salad on a plate instead of carbs? I could see me doin' that. Demand 'Change! I said so!' Not friggin' likely, even if it was the very BEST thing for them. You can lead a horse to water, you can't make it drink. Change is an internal adjustment if it's to be positive. Love doesn't mean you always get it right. It means you try. Together. ' |
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I would hope that the person would want to be a better man for me. He would do anything to please me, as I would to please him. Giving up vices and addictions and bad habits to please your mate would also make you a healthier and better person. You are improving on each other. Giving up something which gives you pleasure, like a hobby or toy collection, but it displeases your spouse, is self-sabotage. The person is selfish and doesn't love you for making you do that. I would never make my man give up something which made him happy, as long as it wasn't destructive, just to please me. So it all depends. Or if it just flat annoyed the hell out of ya |
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I wouldn't give up anything now. I don't plan on falling in love again anyway. It's overrated.
Dammit. I'm just crushed, Lb. 
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I would give up racing on the weekends for true love,,,
hell no i would'nt,,she better atleast like cars,or it just isnt gona work,, Ive given up alot for past GF,,, thay have to take me as iam,, and i will take them for who thay are as well |
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I wouldn't give up anything now. I don't plan on falling in love again anyway. It's overrated.
2Kids...... yeah it is! But it is fine for us to say "I don't want to" but we can't stop it if it comes knocking, and we can't stop another person from 'falling for you'! There...... you may not love me, but I love you anyway!  
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Edited by
Awatersign
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Sun 04/26/15 08:04 PM
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Can we all just go out for drinks now??
   
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I wouldn't give up anything now. I don't plan on falling in love again anyway. It's overrated.
Dammit. I'm just crushed, Lb.
Not to get off topic..but it's just I'm fighting a battle ..that takes all my energy.  it does not leave much to offer.
Please do not respond to this..because I am not Trying to get ((needs))thread off topic.
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I wouldn't give up anything now. I don't plan on falling in love again anyway. It's overrated.
2Kids...... yeah it is! But it is fine for us to say "I don't want to" but we can't stop it if it comes knocking, and we can't stop another person from 'falling for you'! There...... you may not love me, but I love you anyway!
You are very right... 
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Can we all just go out for drinks now??
you buyin? 
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Can we all just go out for drinks now??
you buyin?
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Can we all just go out for drinks now??
you buyin?
lol..............belly on up to the bar |
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I have question for anyone who say they won't give up nothing for their lover unless they want too,lets all remember there's two sides,what if they have given up alot for you,or there is something you want them to really give up,keep in mind you love them ,would you do it then? If i truly loved them, they wouldn't have given up anything for me, because i wouldn't ask them too. Ditto... I would never ask someone to give up something unless it was something that we both needed to give up and I was willing to give it up as well. Therefore back to square one. You never ask someone to give up something unless your willing to give something up yourself....
so there always has to be a payback? No, I'm saying that you should not have to give up anything, unless it is something that you both do and it benefits you both. I have never understood why someone thinks just cause they are with someone they can change them or make them stop doing things they have enjoyed in the past. Unless what they are doing is illegal and you had no idea that they did it I could understand... Anything beyond that, I don't feel another person has the right to tell someone how they should act,what they should do or say. To me that is when you end up dealing with someone that has a control issue... And I would walk away from one of those really fast... 
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wouldn't give up anything.people accept u as ur or keep walking.should always stay yourself as should the person you with I look at it this way. God loves just like I am, he just doesn't want me to stay this way |
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Edited by
Awatersign
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Sun 04/26/15 08:48 PM
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I have question for anyone who say they won't give up nothing for their lover unless they want too,lets all remember there's two sides,what if they have given up alot for you,or there is something you want them to really give up,keep in mind you love them ,would you do it then? If i truly loved them, they wouldn't have given up anything for me, because i wouldn't ask them too. Ditto... I would never ask someone to give up something unless it was something that we both needed to give up and I was willing to give it up as well. Therefore back to square one. You never ask someone to give up something unless your willing to give something up yourself....
so there always has to be a payback? No, I'm saying that you should not have to give up anything, unless it is something that you both do and it benefits you both. I have never understood why someone thinks just cause they are with someone they can change them or make them stop doing things they have enjoyed in the past. Unless what they are doing is illegal and you had no idea that they did it I could understand... Anything beyond that, I don't feel another person has the right to tell someone how they should act,what they should do or say. To me that is when you end up dealing with someone that has a control issue... And I would walk away from one of those really fast...
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