Sure! The problem is you are only going to learn how from the other person.

Relationships are based on, defined by, how you interact with the other person.

Relationships aren't like karate that you learn and then apply towards someone.
They are more like learning a new language that is specific to the other person.




Cool, some more insights and a gentle admonishment.

I'm not researching the next cookie-cutter idea that can be turned into an article for the Enquirer.

Sorry if it came across that way. I'm curious about what makes folks tick and a couple of times already I've been given things to think about that didn't occur to me before. I'm not any different than other folks and maybe the same will/did happen to others who read this.

'...like learning a new language...' y'know?

I'll get out of the way in just a sec, I'm just trying to get this thread to self-sufficiency. I'm interested in stuff I don't know.

I'd say it's "innate" in a way. That's why I talked about it in terms of core visions of life. But it's a matter of actively recognizing who you are, and what you are about, and then accepting that real work is required to do pretty much anything. The "preparation" part, is in the acceptance that it WILL take work, that Love isn't a magic spell which causes people to do the right thing.

It's a bit like eating. You can learn all the kinds of foods that you like and don't like, and be aware of what is and isn't good for you...but whether you actually eat a balanced diet or not, and whether you enjoy what you do eat or not, depends very much on your philosophy of food.

If you are intent on a balanced and healthy life, the real work required to make sure you eat WELL, and don't just cater to your taste buds wont bother you at all. While if you think eating is all about enjoying each meal, it will annoy you to no end that you occasionally have to eat things you really don't care for, or skip eating things you really crave, in order to stay on an even keel.

I believe its taxing on even the strongest relationship, impossible if there isn't a substantial foundation

I feel its about what people want out of a relationship

those who are in for stability and commitment while still having independence its a perfect relationship


for me, I married for companionship, and I couldn't feel it having to start over every other six months,,,,,,

Men are strange but I think they get turned off by women who want to flaunt their strength, I know women do it because they finally feel confident, but men just don't like it. It's not the strong qualities they dislike, it's the loss of femininity in the woman (we have to be careful not sure how exactly lol).

I have suffered from this due to boyfriends not being a man (or a woman lol) as in taking any role or equal contribution, and I have complained that it made me feel like I had to be the man, and not feel feminine, they lost attraction, but didn't know it was all their fault. I also lost attraction, before they did. But if both don't address this issue, it will never work out. It could be either ones fault... power struggle, competition and gender role imbalances kill relationships fast.

depends perhaps on the confidence and self esteem of who are and of the person you are with..I mean, it is the hope that as you grow in maturity, strenth and wisdom you let go of some of these pre-conceived ideas of gender roles that you have rattling around in your head.
You appreciate each other and say so
whether is a he or a she doing the dishes or mowing the lawn
but you are correct
whan a boy is no longer a prince or a girl a little princess
for both have changed over time and circumstance

it takes a King to appreciate a Queen