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Does it exist?
I don't mean to raise a philosophical question, but even my own experiences have showed me, at some point you begin to develop some sort of "feelings". Whether it's the guy or girl (I've experienced both). I think as you get older and embrace the complications of meeting others, it is possible, but it needs to be established. Basically two people on the same page - in terms of communication, goals, or reason of friendship (usually progressive). Can a friendship exist without the lust, especially if the relationship holds more of a intrinsic value than simply having sex? Please share your success stories :) |
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I know it can happen. I have a lot of guys and girls that are my friends and we hang out together with nothing but friendship in mind. If I need to know something about guys I will ask them and they answer it.
We have talked about what we want in the beginning and both sides agree on friendship. We don't even look at each other in a lustful way. Yes It can happen and when it does they become your family. |
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I don't mean to raise a philosophical question,
but even my own experiences have showed me, at some point you begin to develop some sort of "feelings". Whether it's the guy or girl Cant say that Ive ever wanted to rail one of my male pals. Female friends? Sure, the thought has crossed my mind....and a few have admitted its crossed theirs. But boundaries get set....and they are honored....until tequila night  Lol no not really....friends are, well, friends. Its gets too complicated for me if that line is crossed.
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I know it can happen. I have a lot of guys and girls that are my friends and we hang out together with nothing but friendship in mind. If I need to know something about guys I will ask them and they answer it. We have talked about what we want in the beginning and both sides agree on friendship. We don't even look at each other in a lustful way. Yes It can happen and when it does they become your family. It's encouraging to hear this and quite frankly reminds me of the show f.r.i.e.n.d.s. I wonder though if it's strictly on a one-on -one basis in comparison to having a group of friends, would it still be the same. |
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I don't mean to raise a philosophical question,
but even my own experiences have showed me, at some point you begin to develop some sort of "feelings". Whether it's the guy or girl Cant say that Ive ever wanted to rail one of my male pals. Female friends? Sure, the thought has crossed my mind....and a few have admitted its crossed theirs. But boundaries get set....and they are honored....until tequila night Lol no not really....friends are, well, friends. Its gets too complicated for me if that line is crossed.
I know what you mean, and I suppose the emphasis would be on setting boundaries. Let's face it, some view friendship more lightly, where as others take it quite seriously. Your right about that. |
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I know it can happen. I have a lot of guys and girls that are my friends and we hang out together with nothing but friendship in mind. If I need to know something about guys I will ask them and they answer it. We have talked about what we want in the beginning and both sides agree on friendship. We don't even look at each other in a lustful way. Yes It can happen and when it does they become your family. It's encouraging to hear this and quite frankly reminds me of the show f.r.i.e.n.d.s. I wonder though if it's strictly on a one-on -one basis in comparison to having a group of friends, would it still be the same. We don't form groups all the time. sometimes it me and my mate we will watch a movie or talk over a wine/coffee and what ever happens we are there for each other. We are like best friends who like the same things but don't want anymore. we have been like this for about nearly 4 years. |
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Does it exist? I don't mean to raise a philosophical question, but even my own experiences have showed me, at some point you begin to develop some sort of "feelings". Whether it's the guy or girl (I've experienced both). I think as you get older and embrace the complications of meeting others, it is possible, but it needs to be established. Basically two people on the same page - in terms of communication, goals, or reason of friendship (usually progressive). Can a friendship exist without the lust, especially if the relationship holds more of a intrinsic value than simply having sex? Please share your success stories :) Well I am like Good Luck Chuck. Girls that date me or have sex with me end up marrying the next guy they meet.  
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Does it exist? I don't mean to raise a philosophical question, but even my own experiences have showed me, at some point you begin to develop some sort of "feelings". Whether it's the guy or girl (I've experienced both). I think as you get older and embrace the complications of meeting others, it is possible, but it needs to be established. Basically two people on the same page - in terms of communication, goals, or reason of friendship (usually progressive). Can a friendship exist without the lust, especially if the relationship holds more of a intrinsic value than simply having sex? Please share your success stories :) Well I am like Good Luck Chuck. Girls that date me or have sex with me end up marrying the next guy they meet.
That's sad That makes me cry for you  
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I like to think so but my left hand disagrees completely.
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Does it exist? I don't mean to raise a philosophical question, but even my own experiences have showed me, at some point you begin to develop some sort of "feelings". Whether it's the guy or girl (I've experienced both). I think as you get older and embrace the complications of meeting others, it is possible, but it needs to be established. Basically two people on the same page - in terms of communication, goals, or reason of friendship (usually progressive). Can a friendship exist without the lust, especially if the relationship holds more of a intrinsic value than simply having sex? Please share your success stories :) Well I am like Good Luck Chuck. Girls that date me or have sex with me end up marrying the next guy they meet.
That's sad That makes me cry for you
That makes one of us. 
Actually though, the last two women I have dated have gone on to meet their husbands (right after breaking up with me). It's just life. |
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I would think it is fairly common, to do otherwise,
in many friendship situations, would be rather stupid of us. one for instance, our friends who are married. just because we have feelings or attractions doesn't mean we act upon them in a way that could be hurtful to us, them or others. just sayin.... |
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That's pretty awesome, to have that level of maturity and understanding. Four years speaks volumes.
I would value and cherish it, although friends can be friends. |
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Does it exist? I don't mean to raise a philosophical question, but even my own experiences have showed me, at some point you begin to develop some sort of "feelings". Whether it's the guy or girl (I've experienced both). I think as you get older and embrace the complications of meeting others, it is possible, but it needs to be established. Basically two people on the same page - in terms of communication, goals, or reason of friendship (usually progressive). Can a friendship exist without the lust, especially if the relationship holds more of a intrinsic value than simply having sex? Please share your success stories :) Well I am like Good Luck Chuck. Girls that date me or have sex with me end up marrying the next guy they meet.
That's sad That makes me cry for you
That makes one of us.
Actually though, the last two women I have dated have gone on to meet their husbands (right after breaking up with me). It's just life. Even if your like Good Luck Chuck, I do wish you luck in finding what your looking for. I've seen similar situations, but it's almost unreal. Your basically at that point where your ready to marry (psychologically) and your out there and your moving fast. It's almost like a different kind of connection, at least that's how I see it. |
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it is common in Muslim countries. boy and girl just love each other.
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it is common in Muslim countries. boy and girl just love each other. |
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My last job was in a male dominated sport. I have lots of friends who are male, and nothing more than friends.
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it is common in Muslim countries. boy and girl just love each other. I see what you mean especially in countries in the Middle East and Asia but it's not as simple as love. There is strong parental influence, socio-economic ties between families, and of course the religion of Islam itself. I would think even that is questionable in the sense of your likings in comparison to all other driving factors mentioned. It's interesting seeing how different cultures portray friendship, and in this case even marriage differently. It's incomparable to here in the west. |
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My last job was in a male dominated sport. I have lots of friends who are male, and nothing more than friends. That sounds incredible - I'm trying to imagine putting myself in your shoes. Do you stay in touch still? |
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I reckon a lot of these replies kinda put a damper on the whole "starting out as friends" thing. But I don't believe them. Whether it is voiced or not, acted upon or not, one or both parties wanna rub their bellies together at some point. Remember, just because you don't find me attractive or like me "in that way" doesn't mean I don't find you attractive and DO like you "in that way"...
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My last job was in a male dominated sport. I have lots of friends who are male, and nothing more than friends. That sounds incredible - I'm trying to imagine putting myself in your shoes. Do you stay in touch still? Since the business closed, we have scattered around the area. We don't hang around nearly as much as we did, but when we all see each other, it's just like old times. Hugs, silliness, old jokes... catching up on what is real in our lives. |
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