On Saturday I went out to kareoke with a few of the regulars that I have become friends with at the coffee shop that I work at. And one of them is a computer geek. I absolutly LOVE computer geeks. for some reason they are a big turn on for me. Well we had a good time on Saturday and last night he came over to my place and I was sitting on my couch with my laptop and he was on my desktop and just watching him was making my heart race. Then afterwards he came over to the couch and sat beside me. We started cuddling and watching a movie on my laptop. He was so comfortable that i started to doze of. But just being in his arms made me feel safe. I am really starting to like him. But here is my problem. He has an interview next week in a different province. Plus he is a regular at the shop and if we started dating and going out and things by chance did not work out, it may make working there rather uncomfortable. But as I said I really like this guy.

Any help would be great.

Lost and Confused.

Melissa.

I think you should spend more time w/ him amd slowly get to know him! You never know what may come of it. If you put to many stipulations on dating, like where you meet, you may never find someone to be w/. Good luck!

Melissa...

If you really like him, what are you confused about? How far away can he really be... It will work out if you really want it to. I would let him know how comfortable you feel around him. Does he have any idea that you like him? I would let him know..

go for it! jobs come and go, but so do men...what the heck?

I am not caring on were we met. I am just afraid of getting involved with him and then all of a sudden he is gone to Alberta. Or we break up and things just start sucking at work.

you'll never know, unless you try, it could actually work!

I think he does know. We kissed on Saturday.

maybe I should just talk to him, I am just not good at having face to face conversations like this.

Sweety you never know untill you try...

Gentley shoves Whisper towards him.

This may be the geek of your dreams.
There are not too many that I could so easily fall asleep when with.
If he moves it would'nt be the end- just some changes...
Listen to that geekie heart of yours and take a chance...

thank you guys. I will talk to him tonight. I will call him and let him know to meet me. My heart is racing just thinking on having a conversation like this. Damn it when did I become an adult.

It's never easy telling anyone how you feel in situations like this. However, I think you need to. You may be surprised in what you hear back.

Uhhhhhh ok....so he went from being a regular at the coffee shop to cuddling on the couch and now youre worried? Just see what happens, it may have been nothing or it could be something......let him take the lead.

Now, if he gets the job in another province and by then you guys are seeing each other, you can always visit or move there if you guys are serious.

You got it, talk to him …otherwise just enjoy the moment. If you two don’t work out, treat him like any customer.

Well I talked to him and asked him what was happening and going on between us. And we both agreed that we are just going to take it easy and see where things lead.

WHisper, nothing venture,nothing gained.
Go slow & talk, if in person bothers you, phone & puter.
Hope for whatever you want.

Don't think and analyze too much; just live and take the risks. Expectations can ruin things.

...then tell him what you mentioned here too...afterall, communication is the cornerstone of any relationship. If he tells you what you don't want to hear at-least you know for real where this is going.

Whisper, I just hope he isn't like the guy in the jokes forum...if you tell him you something you feel from your heart...it might fly right over his head and he will be like huh? You have two choices, go with your heart and take it slow and see what developes, or just be friends, leave it at that, because if he moves, he won't be a regular at the coffee shop anymore. But go with your best instinct...and your heart will follow.

Thank you guys for your advice and I did tell him what I said here. And He told me that he was not going to lie to me that he does hope he gets this job, but at the same time he just wants to take it slow and see what delelops. And I think I am going to do that. Nobody knows about us. And there is a group of regulars I have become friends with. We all sit together. So it is not like we do not know any of the same people.

go with your heart, who knows what happens until you try. You mentioned something about it going wrong and work would suck, ya know work can suck anyway so at least give it a try. Best of luck.

thanks..but i am going to stay with my boyfriend